My fiance found a tux he really likes, but it would be 137.00 for groomsmen to rent. He is afraid they won't pay that. Is that too much?? I think it is his day too and should get to wear what he wants. Would it be a good gesture to offer to pay a certain dollar amount to help with the cost?? Really want the groom happy too!!!!
2006-11-29 21:51:18 · 17 answers · asked by tiger4mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Anyone who accepts an invitation to participate in a wedding in most circles has "traditionally" agreed to incur some expense to do so (see "Who pays for what" below). Is it a good gesture to offer to offset some of their clothing cost? If you know it would cause financial hardship then why not? If you know it wouldn't, then the question is WHY?
Most people consider it an honor and privilege to stand up in a wedding. Most weddings are planned in advance so there is more often than not ample time to secure the funds necessary to acquire and pay for accoutrements. If you haven't brow-beaten or coerced your bridal party members then they shouldn't have a problem anteing up.
That being said it should also be pointed out that cultural backgrounds and individual convictions DO heavily influence the decision-making in Wedding Etiquette. Nevertheless, the following is a general guide that should be construed as such... and adopted as you deem fit:
Who Pays For What?
The Bride typically pays for
The Wedding ring for the Groom
Gifts for the Attendants
Accommodation for out-of-town Attendants
The Wedding gift for the Groom
The Groom typically pays for
The Bride's rings including the Engagement ring
The honeymoon
Wedding gift for the bride
The marriage license
The Groom's men gifts
Accommodation for out-of-town groom's men
Flowers for the Bride
The going-away corsage,
corsages for mothers, special ladies;
The boutonnieres for men in wedding party
The gloves, ties and accessories for the men in the wedding party
Fee for clergy person or judge
The Groom's Family typically pays for
Clothing for the Wedding
Travel and lodging expenses
Rehearsal dinner
The Wedding gift for the newlyweds
The Bride's Family typically pays for:
The costs of the reception.
The Bride's Wedding attire/trousseau
Invitations, announcements, thank you notes
The seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs
Photographer
Videographer
Ceremony costs
Bridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories
Transportation for bridal party on Wedding day from ceremony to reception.
All gratuities for all services: parking, security
Bridesmaid luncheon
The Attendants typically pay for:
Their Wedding clothes
Travel expenses
Wedding gift for newlyweds
2006-11-30 01:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by videoguy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Our Groomsmen paid about 150 for the rental; but that included everything down to the shoes & all taxes. I like your idea of offering to pay part of the rental to help offset their costs though. Maybe $50 per tux? Then at least it would be under $100 for each of them. But then watch how many groomsmen you have because that could get a bit pricey. Or maybe you could just wait and see if they grumble about the price & then offer.
2006-11-30 01:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most I've seen groomsmen rent a tux for is around the 200's range...a price of 137 is actually quite resonable for a tux rental. The guys will be fine with it, and if they aren't then don't be afraid to ask for a deal. Depending on how many men you have who need to rent a tux, the shop might give you a few for free...Don't be afraid to ask for what you want! If they don't give it to you, then just drop everything and walk out...they'll change their minds.
2006-11-30 03:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is usually how it's done in my area. Groomsmen rent their own tuxes and bridesmaids buy their own dresses. The wedding couple pays for their flowers.
2016-03-29 16:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compared to what my guys have to pay $137 is rather afforadable. What he cann do he to rent the suit that he like and obviously wants to wear for himself.Let the groomsmen rent a different suit that is hopefully cheaper.This way the groom will stand out, he gets the suit that he wants and the groomsmen get a more affordable suit.
2006-11-30 00:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Groomsmen's suits do not have to match the Groom's... they should, however, compliment it.
Let your Groom have his tux and choose a less pricey tux that will complement his, for the groomsmen. Paying for the difference is also acceptable, but may be hard on your finances.
2006-11-29 22:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is too much for a one day rental.
The groom's party don't have to match the groom!!!! It's just like the bm being dressed just like the bride!
For the grooms party, you can ask for the grooms party to wear the same color and style of tux. For instance, black tux, red vest, white tux shirt. That's all that your should ask.
Good luck
2006-11-30 01:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its too much. The bridesmaids have to spend alot more on their dresses. If some of the groomsmen have a problem spending too much money, your fiance` can ask them what they can afford and maybe pay the difference. If they're his friends they probably won't mind too much. Just make sure your fiance` buys them good bridal party gifts!! :-)
2006-11-30 01:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by mssweets84 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I used to work in a tux shop, and that's an average price for a tux. For my wedding, I used suits, and each guy was able to BUY his for about $120. They loved it, cause they were able to keep it.
2006-11-30 03:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more than 80.00 is too much depends on the occupation of the groomens as well. You could just offer to make up the difference.
2006-11-29 22:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋