How does one overcome sex addiction?

Question

I know this is not as rare as it seems. I looked up on the Internet and found they actually do have SAA classes. So I'm not alone. But I'm not too comfortable attending a meeting yet. I want to do this on my own. I'm 26. I lost my "flower" when I was 20. Since then I have been crazy about doin the do and it ruined a couple relationships. Because I want it too much. So they say. It's a real problem, I'm not trying to be funny or crass. I use to have to have sex every day. Didn't matter with who. I used protection and all that, took care of myself, but it started scaring me when I actually thought about prostitution. So I took a quiz to see if I was a sex addict and yeah I am. But I haven't had any since around Halloween, so a month...it feels like freakin 3 years. Is this a mind thing? I don't want to stop all together...I just want control. I am feining right now. I'm glad I'm at work now....anyone ever go through this?

Answer 1

Well, it sounds like you have a healthy enough attitude about it. I read once, where Mike Tyson and singer B angie B claimed to 'do it ' sixteen times a day LOL..and you think you were something wrong...The dangerous part though, is being wreckless to the point that you are not using self control to be careful of the concequences...I don't know if you are religious or not,..but what always stops me from any kind of abusive behavior, wether it is sex or gambling, in my case...is I always remember that Jesus died so I could be forgiven of those sins...and it gives me the strength to stop it...guilt always helps you know..but if you don't think you can stop it...you might try to find a guy who is equal to you in your lusty appetite...I know it worked for me lol...Good luck and just please be careful, there are a lot of diseases, and you don't want any children by accident...Pray on this one darling, and you will find strength.

Answer 2

SAA is a fellowship that can be effective in helping you identify with other addicts, which will help you become more comfortable with the concept of actually being addicted to sex. However, like most of the anonymous (e.g. AA, NA), the whole process is driven to abstain from your addiction, not to maintain any level of control. Most people find this approach a bit rash and for the thinking person, there is a great alternative called SmartRecovery (www.smartrecovery.org).

Sexual Addiction, like any other addiction, is a process that is learned and becomes part of your brains reward system. Everyone has a different "trigger" that stimulates this process and your brain will develop behaviors in order to repeat that reward as much as possible. Finding away to change these addictive behaviors is how to effectively manage your addiction.

SmartRecovery is driven on the principals of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). This form of therapy helps you understand the link between your thoughts (cognition) and actions (behaviors) and the cost vs. benefit of each decision you make in following your addiction. Once identified, we try to change our behavior early in the process to keep us from falling pray to our addiction.

I know it may seem pedestrian at first, but it truly is a pragmatic approach to managing addictive behavior. I'm 26, have 13 years of addiction, been trying to fix myself for the last 3 years and 6 months ago, went to a private practice that specializes in CBT and got my life together. I go to SmartRecovery once a week for maintenance.

I hope this helps - good luck.

Answer 3

Dear, there is nothing wrong with you. You started when you reached the age of 20, good for you. Some of us started at 12. I think you stumbled on to something nice and pleasurable and got hooked. Not an issue.

Unless you were molested as a child or had other form of tragic event in your life I don't think you have much to worry about.

Lets look at some things:
-It is pleasurable
-It relieves stress
-It is by far the best feeling only you or someone can ever give.
-You can choose whom to share it with.

Good on you for holding out so long. Use protection and try to stay monogamous. Get a toy if you need to add extra to that. Enjoy and have fun.

Answer 4

I personally view addictions as ways to get highs, whether it's drugs, sex of shopping. Addicts tend to look for the 'high' iin what they are doing and many times feel remorseful after the fact.

Explore you yourself mentally and ask yourself why are you doing this. Why do you need to do this. What are you getting out from it. Who are you hurting. Look deep down and explore every aspect of yourself.

Are you doing it for attention, cover up esteem problems? Only you will know. Once you know the truth about what are the inherent causes, then you can start working out a plan to stop.

Next time you feel the urge, do something else, take youself away from temptation. Go to a piblic place and have a cup of coffee until the feeling passes.

After a while, you should be able to condition your body and have enough discipline to stop.

Answer 5

Well, since I do not agree with the concept of "sex addicition" you may not accept this, but I do believe this is an overly used phrase to excuse a behavior problem. It's called impulse control or self control. I do believe it is a "mind thing" but controllable. Promiscuity is also a symptom of a couple of mental disorders, i.e., OCD and Bipolar Disorder. It is a form of anxiety and compulsive behaviors that is managed with talk therapy and possibly medication. It is a similar concept as that of someone's need to wash their hands too much, or performing a ritual to calm an anxiety, especially if you receive little gratification from your behavior and are focused more on the act itself.

Answer 6

not having sex just makes you want it more. i have to scream every day from the not having sex and i haven't had sex ever. 27 years is a long time and its all i think about. so simply denying yourself wont do it. however limiting yourself may be the answer. cut down to once every other day then every 4 days then once a week. and see if that helps.

Answer 7

SSA classes usually have people there looking for sex partners be careful their are dangerous people out in the real world.Maybe you need to see a therapist.Buy a toy as my girl use to call it.Satisfy yourself instead of seeking out enjoyment it's much safer.

Answer 8

thats one i dont have the answer for cos there is no cure.
but you could try knackering yourself out someother way, like joining a gym, get those feel good hormones flowing, yno endorphines give a feeling of euphoria. take ling walks, join a dance class. it'll keep you busy, too tired and distracted to notice how horny you are.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

its true that u are a sex addict but not a wrong thing as it is natural for anyone to be interested in sex
but u overdoing it so control urself dont even shag