I'm in relationship with a girl,which my mom hates - this caused my moving out abroad with my gf. after 3 months she hasn't changed at all - still mean about my relationship,and probably still ready to do EVERYTHING to keep me away from my girl. Christymas is coming and I'm back in my city,which my mom doesnt know about. I told her we'll meet in Christmas Eve. my grandparents aways organise dinner and I'm not sure if I should go. First of all I hate going there,coz it's never like real Christmas-presents are bought coz they should be, there are laways fights during the dinner and always some end up upset angy or something. doesn't sound like nice Christmas dinner, right? what's more it may be even worse for me,coz anyone from my family (except my dad) knew about my moving abroad with my gf.till now they don't know why I went away and 1st thing I'll have to deal with will be anger and mean comments about the situation. there's also the problem with my mom. she doesn't know yet that I'm
2006-11-29 21:37:34 · 5 answers · asked by bara_no_seido 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Avoid the situation all together, send your regrets, become a man and do what you want to in life.
2006-11-29 21:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sort of know you pain. My cousin, who was also my roommate, he went through a very similar situation, also with his mom as the real problem between him and his girl. He also moved out of town and in with me. I witnessed all of this stuff go down first hand. And it was an ugly situation.
The choices that he made are obviously not going to help you, but what I learned from the whole mess, was that you have to make the best decisions you can for yourself. If your family is volatile and you know it's going to be a tough situation, then maybe it's best to avoid it for now. Personally I think it works best to get people used to an idea, or in your case your GF in small groups. Maybe over the holidays, try an evening with your mom, and a seperate evening with other family members. Grandparents, Aunt/Uncle, or something like that. Explain the situation and maybe next year you can confront the whole lot of them together without such woe.
I am a white guy, and I married an asian woman. and there were several people in my family that didn't like the idea. But I went to all the major factions within my family seperately, and in time I got all of thier blessings and it all worked out. So maybe that plan could work for you if your worried.
2006-11-30 05:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Carlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go. Everywhere in most families people bicker, argue & upset others but has that stopped your grandparents from organising it ? Relatives would be angry on you for moving away because they care for you. Think positive, that one of your relatives might be willing to give you a patient ear, underastand your worries & would be in a position to talk to your mom.
Out of respect for the family who raised you, you should go. If some one says something bitter, hold your anger & calmy explain to them.
Christmas comes once a year.
2006-11-30 06:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by TheSage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away solves nothing remember family occaisons everyone remebers only the last thing that happened so be brave you have got it made smile no matter what and they will all be jealous of what you have.
2006-11-30 05:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! Maybe you should just have a quiet Christmas with your girl.
2006-11-30 05:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋