It is a struggle to get her to go to bed also. I have tried sticker charts, rewards, and simply holding the door shut like they do on supernanny, I have tried talking to her,and explaining the consequences to her. She has a regualar bed time routine of hot choc, teeth, story then bed and nothing is working. Any sugestions pls?
2006-11-29 21:33:24 · 14 answers · asked by daisylu 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Does she take naps still? If so, it could be that she's just not tired. Thus, she won't be tired when she goes to bed, and when she does get to sleep, she won't sleep for long enough and when she wakes up won't need anymore sleep.
Extrinsic motivation (external/outside rewards) never help anything, though. Sleep is something we all need to do, and rewards will only make her expect or demand them (and thus, not do it when she gets nothing, or feels she's not getting enough, and make her think it's negotiable and that she has power/control of the situation).
Supernanny likes to use the old put the kid back in bed routine without saying a word. First (after she's gotten up) it's pick her up, put her to bed, say goodnight again, and leave. Next time, say nothing, put her back to bed. Same thing again and again until she gets it. No talking. No engaging her. No bargaining. So that eventually she'll realize there are no other options, and she's not going to get anything out of it. It might take all night, and a few nights at that, but all the parents seemed to find the effort it took worth all the future nightly conflicts they'd thereby avoided.
2006-11-29 21:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remove the hot choc. That is waking her up - give her warm milk - no sugar otherwise that will have the same effect as the hot chocolate.
Then teeth and wee, then story snuggled in bed. She does not go out of her room again after the story.
Keep putting her back making no eye contact and without conversation. Do not react to her shouting etc. Keep placing her back in bed. This might test you and her but after several days she'll realise she's not getting anywhere.
Removing 1 toy per night can help too.
Good luck.
2006-11-30 22:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Isabelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you look her in the eye when putting her back to bed? 'Rapid return' might work. Every time she gets out, just put her back in bed and don't give her ANY attention. If she knows she's getting to you, she has a reason to keep doing it. She'll still scream a few more times, but eventually it's not worth it.
I might also change the hot choc to warm milk or something less sugary. Maybe she's just workign the rush out of her system.
2006-11-29 21:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by robin g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her in the cold light of day about it. Explain how sleep will help her grow and make her healthy. If it's monsters in the cupboard, etc, ask her to draw them, then both of you rip them up to show her that they're gone now. Also hot chocolate is not a good idea, try a little warm milk. Maybe it's just a bad habit she's got into. Slowly, gently, lots of patience and she'll get there. Locking doors, etc, will just increase her anxiety. Has she got a night light?
2006-12-01 00:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by personwithgreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's learnt that she gets attention from waking up.
Has something happened to make her frightened, change her routine or home life? Something at school? With her friends? It would be important to check out what has started off this change of behaviour.
You may have to be really tough here, and put a lock on the door, and just let her scream for as long as it takes each night, and for as many nights as it takes for her to learn that you are in charge and not her.
2006-11-30 00:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sally E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the super nanny thing worked for my friend,
the first time the wee 1 got up she said in a nice voice bed time and put her back
the second time she said bed in the same voice
the third time nothing
and as the fourth and fifth it did take a few nites but she said it worked wonders,
she said she thinks the voice had a lot to do with it cause the wee 1 was like mmm she ain't mad at me so if you ain't screaming and getting angry so they then think whats the point
2006-11-30 00:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by cute sexy little feet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 00:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking the hot chocolate is probally a bad idea. Not only will it make her have to use the washroom, but if it has caffeine in it, as most have the equivalent of a cup of coffee, then that could be the reason she wont go to bed, the caffeine could be keeping her up, as well as making her feel anxious causing outbursts.
xxx
2006-11-29 22:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by xxxkittenxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As mentioned before it could be night terrors, my youngest went through it from 4-6.
It was sometimes very upsetting as sometimes she wouldn't recognise me.
Singing softly has quite a calming effect while ushering her back to bed. Once she gets in a state its futile doing something that is likely to cause more stress as it prolongs the situation.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 03:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried spanking? I wouldn't resort to it right away, but i would make it very clear to her what is coming should she get out of bed the next time. If she tries you again, pull down her pants/panties, put her over your lap and give her a good 12 sharp spanks to the bottom. Then explain that you expect her not to get out of bed again, unless it's to go the the bathroom, in which case she is to go pee, then get right back in bed, or it's another spanking.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 01:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋