when first time i liked some one her mother ordered him to marry his cousin and not me......i moved on.....and thought i will never be able to accept any one else...after 2 years i liked someone again and he left me because i didnt wanted physical relationship before marraige......i m 23 right now.....now my parents wants me to get married, they asked me if i have any choice,otherwise i have to marry a stranger which i never want to do......how can i find true love? i think no one will ever love me truly and i m very depressed with my life......what should i do now?? ofcourse i cant go and find out men t marry me....i am very reserved girl.....i feel i will never find any one n i wont be able to LOVE some one now what should i do??????please help
2006-11-29 21:04:31 · 15 answers · asked by Ashiii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All of thankx a lot for replying such sweet answers i love u all n whoever asked me to be his/her friend u r my friends but i dont have email id otherwise i would have added u all in my msn
2006-11-29 21:42:42 · update #1
It sounds like you may be from a culture where arranged marriage is the norm but your parents are trying to give you some choice..
Can you ask your parents for 2 more years? Explain to them that in America 25 is not old at all for marriage and that you need and want more time to try to find love on your own.
If you could get this time you would need to come out of you shell some. Try taking some classes, learning new things. You can meet many new people (lovely men included) along the way.
Please don't give up on this. What you are asking is reasonable and it sounds as if your parents are somewhat reasonable too. Email me if you'd like. I'll try to help any way I can.
Blessings Sweatheart.
2006-11-29 21:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you gotta realise that you will find true love in the institution of Marriage.
Second,you gotta realise "Arranged Marriage" is more effective than "Love Marriage" most of the times.
You are 23 and single,look around and see how many girls are married to the guy they loved.You'll see there are very less.
Third thing you gotta realise is that,when you were born,did you know somebody?Obviously you didn't,you were a total stranger and the world was also a "stranger" to you.So you gotta say to yourself nobody is a stranger.
See love or arranged marriage is your choice,
I am a christian and I believe that God has the best mate for you.Believe in God and pray and he'll help you find one guy,He(GOD) destined for you,
And as far as your search for true love is concerned,Just tell me why you didn't have physical relationship with someone?
I think the main reason is because you believe Sex is legal only in marriage.So deep down inside you still have an assurance that your body is for your husband and his for yours.
So even you are reserved,give arranged marriage a try.Cuz you've already been dumped twice why go for third.
Let your parents search for the perfect guy,marry him and see how true love starts right fom your "FERES"
nuff luv
Viv
2006-11-29 21:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by V!V-J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Aashii
Don't be depressed for the sake of love. If u have no bf or ur choice and ur parents want to marry u any where with a stranger then no problem. Becoz love is not buy from market it is the feelings dear if u go with stranger perhaps he would love u so much then ur expectations. It is better to go with stranger then that boy who force u for physical relations. If he likes u & want to marry with u. & most important he would serve u then tell ur parents otherwise forget that person who wants only sex not marraige. Go with ur parents choice becoz parents never gave wrong suggestion to kids.
Don't confused or depressed , go ahead with a right step of ur life becoz it is a very delicate decision of ur life. Or if u r reserved type girl that is good dear I also liked like u. If u be my friend?
2006-11-29 21:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by care 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and marriage isnt the answer to how you are feeling right now.Get to know yourself better,love yourself and try to concentrate on other things for now e.g your education.
True love will definitely find you.You sound like a nice and caring person...Goodluck.
2006-11-29 21:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by mex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you from where your parents decide who you will marry? You are your own person and you sound very sweet. I wish i could have met you a few years ago.... Trust me, you will find a nice guy one day and be glad you waited. Good luck!!
2006-11-29 21:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 23, go your own way, its your choice when you want to marry and to whom! This is the only thing you can do! Stand up for yourself and pray to God for guidance, He will help you. Be strong!
2006-11-29 21:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life do what you want. Your parents can't make you marry. Tell your parents how you feel.
2006-11-29 21:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be depressed, yaar. Have fun with your friends.... Make more friendship on the internet..... Share your feelings with them and see how the life changes..... Can we be friends? Contact me on aramaiya@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 21:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u women are very lucky, you can love someone & marry,alternatively you marry anyone ,then love your child as treditional wife. both ways are good,u can approach jeevansathi.com
2006-11-29 21:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by sk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is the key word at this hour of time
2006-11-29 21:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by ab 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋