since days, i m feeling 2 frustrated in life due to betrayal from my own father, after my moms death, and?

Question

since from that time, life is not as easy as it used to be, he thinks now he is a free bird, and do hitler rule all over

Answer 1

I suppose you have two complaints against your father -

1. that he is acting like a "free bird" now
2. and that he's acting like hitler too.

It's very happy to note that you do not feel the same way! Dont be shocked by this, but it's very possible. Generally it is the kids who do all this once they have fewer people to control them. But you have not gone so, and in fact are upset that your dad is doing so.

Way to go man!

Really you have it in you to cross big crises in life.

Now let's see what can be done.

1. You can try to correct your dad. This totally depends upon what kind of a person he is and what kind of a relationship you both share. But I don't think this could be possible as you have told us that he acts like hitler nowadays.

2. So, all you can do is - ignore his activities! You set your goals in life and strive towards that. Form your own circle of people whom you are comfortable with. Divert yoru attention from your dad to anything else in life.

It's really good to note that you realise that your Dad is making a mistake in this! All the best!

Answer 2

If someone close to you has died, you may be feeling many different emotions. You may be sad, worried, or scared. You might be shocked, unprepared, or confused. You might be feeling angry, cheated, relieved, guilty, exhausted, or just plain empty. Your emotions might be stronger or deeper than usual or mixed together in ways you've never experienced before.
You might also notice that your loss is affecting what you're thinking about and how you behave. If you're grieving, you might be having trouble concentrating, sleeping, eating, or feeling interested in the things you usually enjoy. You might be trying to act like you feel OK (even if you don't) because you want to be strong for someone else. And you may wonder if you will ever get over losing someone who means so much to you.

Your dad might be behaving like a hitler with you cause he cant help it. May be thats the way he is finding a way to cope up with his problem. The best way to work things out between you both is even if you don't feel like talking, find ways to express your emotions and thoughts to him. You both can remember all the good time you all had when your mom was there. Try and work things out between you and your dad.

I will pray for you
Good luck and god bless

Answer 3

Don't say betrayal - it could be that he's too shocekd and doesn't know what to do. Might be all tenesed about bringing up kids etc...in most of the houses lokking after kids, running the house etc.. are mother's job so he must be so tensed to even think that he has to deal with all that and the bereavement.

So be understanding. Try to have a calm chat with him, give him teh assurance and support, he very needs right now. Think from his angle and co-operate with. Share some daily chores and responsibilities with him. Try to become a good friend of your Dad.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

I am sorry for the loss of your mom. I had the same experience. Your Dad is probably just frustrated and that is his way of coping with your mom's death. Trust me things will get better. Good Luck

Answer 5

Do not worry , such thoughts come in one's mind after such great shocks .I am sorry for ur mom . do try to think +ve . if u are really very depressed than a friend always await for u . U can either to about this to ur good friends or talk to me on my id-
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BYE . hope so that either u will contact me or talk to ur friend .

Answer 6

oh dear dont worry!

i'll be there for u!