i've started to one of my exes again after a long time and we have agreed to be friends but he tells me his feelings for me have changed and that he doesn't want to be friends he wants to be more and he's calling me at 2pm i do still have feelings for him but don't no weather they are the same way what should i do any ideas sensible ones please
2006-11-29 20:18:16 · 23 answers · asked by beci 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
date slowly and see how it goes
2006-11-29 20:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by weizy_26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the same way, ask yourself why you're seeing him again. I can tell you from experience that this is usually a huge mistake. You are good enough to wait for the best anywhere, and don't need to settle for the insecure excuse that another better will not come along.
Second, review the reasons you had to break up in the first place. Has he met all your basic expectations for what it would take to make you look up to him forever and be satisfied? Is this the foundation for a permanent relationship?
2006-11-30 04:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing 2 yrs ago, we got back 2 gether and yeah it was great at first, just like the honeymoon period all over again. But he started taking me 4 granted, staying out, not paying his way in the house.
So after a while our feelings just drifted apart and we felt more like brother and sister and had to end it.
I hope u do whats best 4 u both, but just bear this advice in mind...x
2006-11-30 04:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this question. if you once loved this man it is easy for you to think you still have feelings for him when things are good between you but you also have to remember the reason/s you split in the first place, if these were serious reasons that you feel cant be forgotten i'd leave it as just friends however if you think that you can give it another go and work on it then go for it.good luck x
2006-11-30 04:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to be sure whether you really have strong feelings about your ex and also to know if he's being serious about what he's telling you before you make your decision to get back to him sometimes men doesn't know what they won't and when things don't go well they decide to get back to the comfort zone you might be his comfort zone that's why he's trying to ask you to have him back be careful girl think before you make any decision and be wise.....you are the only one who can decide whether to take him back or not noone else can decide on your behalf
2006-11-30 05:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lord Glyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart say!! Go back or move on!!! Don't let him blackmail you into going back with him if you are not sure!! After all it didn't work out the first time!! Most men feel venerable when it comes to Christmas being on their own he may only want a present. I would be very wary!!
2006-11-30 04:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several ways to look at this. I've known of people who have dated for a while, broken up and then gotten back to together later. With them the second time was the right one for them and they are still together. But I have known people who have broken up and gotten back together but it did not work. I think alot of it depends on how the relationship was before, and why ya'll broke up. What ever you decide try to protect your heart.
2006-11-30 04:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow you heart and take it nice and easy...Dont know how long yall were together the first time,,but rediscover each other..Something brought you back together and never take that lightly...Enjoy what time yall have to get to know each other again and who knows,,he may have changed to be who you dreamed of and vise versa...Good luck and God bless you
2006-11-30 04:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you want to be friends n that you dont feel the same way if he was a true friend then he wuld understand and be greatful to have a good friend! x
2006-11-30 04:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by xcraziix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one can answer this but you, but you already knew that, didn't you? :)
Why not just meet up, have a drink and seehow things go - slowly slowly and see how you feel after a few 'casual' meets as friends?
2006-11-30 04:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by winballpizard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every body in life gets 2nd chance...so do ur relationship...go slow n steady!! who knows..may be u two wins the race this time...goodluck gal
2006-11-30 04:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by shweta - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋