I have worked for this company for about 2.5 years and work with all guys. My b.f. used to work here and knows all the guys I work with. B4 I started going out with him (we are now living together) I used to go out to eat occasionaly with one of my guy friends. No romantic intentions at all. So after I started going out with my guy I let him know about 1 time I went out to eat with the guy. Then another time on Friday after work had a couple beers with the guy in my car. Told my b.f. about it, because I didnt think anything of it. He thinks I cheated, and I promised it was only a really stupid mistake and that I had no bad intentions. I was 100% honest with him. Will NEVER do it again. So now he LIED to me about getting a girls number and calling her. His intention is to cheat. Do you think I cheated or am I just guilty of doing a stupid thing? What should I do about him cheating and lying now? Do I deserve this? I meant no harm and was very honest and sorry to him.
2006-11-29 20:11:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think what u did was a mistake and stupid thing to do. You was honest and told him. His part : I believe he always had temptations of cheating, but by u telling him what u did, he now is using that as an excuse for his F!!!K up, therefore send him packing and send him on his way. U were honest he should have been too. Like they say once a cheater always a cheater, well once a liar , always a liar. Good Luck ( by the way u didnt cheat just made a boo boo)
2006-11-29 20:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being silly and your boyfriend sillier. When a couple love each other, trust is one of the most important things to have. WIthout trust there can be no love and subsequently no relationship.
So, have a talk with him. Tell him very clearly that you, for your part, love him and have always been faithful to him since your relationship began and that you will remain faithful to him, but that you must not infringe on each other's private space and should give each other some "me" time away from each other. If he is willing to understand that and swear the same oath to you, you're in luck. But do remember that a quarrel is the last thing either of you need. Besides, you told him what you had done and that does not amount to cheating, moral or otherwise. Just make sure the "other guy" understands that too.
More things are wrought by "talking things over" than the world dreams of.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 04:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by cs_gollum 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did do a stupid thing by having beers in a car with another guy after you and your b/f started going together. However if your b/f won't accept your explanation and apology, that is a problem with him unless this is not the first time you have done this.
In any case, if your b/f thinks that he has to "get even" by cheating on you, that is so immature and childish that I would look for someone else. Talk about this with him. If this kind of behavior is consistant behavior on his part, why would you want to stay with him?
2006-11-30 04:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear what an awkward situation to be in. No it doesn't sound like you've cheated but your bf doesn't know that and feels jealous that you spent time alone in a car drinking with a guy from work. All you can do is tell him that nothing happened and don't let it happen again. I hope he doesn't put you through any more lessons with his jealousy. Don't create any more situations that are hard to explain though as it's not easy on your partner. You wouldn't like it to happen to you either.
2006-11-30 04:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did nothing wrong. Not to be mean but you both sound immature. No one should stop being friends w/ the opposite sex because now they're in a relationship. If you just became friends w/ this guy then I would say what's up w/ that but you were already friends. He is playing w/ fire by trying to get back at you. It can only hurt the relationship more and that's not how you solve problems
2006-11-30 04:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think u did wrong to tell ur b,f did u expect him not to take it hard when he got to hear this. He loves u so much but beleive me some things r better not to be said remember everbody has got secrets but everybody also has freinds of the opposite sex & it is good f the both of u had more trust in each other however, it is good that u were honest i think ur guy is lucky.
2006-11-30 08:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by frank w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have cried your eyes dry trying to convince him that this was just bad judgement on your behalf. But I feel that there is definately a lack of trust on his behalf. I wish my ex-wife had told me some of the things she did and allowed me to respond my way, But she was selfish. Some would say that you told him out of guilt, But the fact still remains that he heard it from you and not in the streets. Bottom line is you can't stop him from doing what it is he is going to do or has done, But keep your head up and if it all falls apart remember you at least told the truth... egreen3rd
2006-11-30 04:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by egreen3rd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is looking for a justification for his actions. You don't have any reason to feel guilty at all!!! You were completely honest about everything. I would get out while you still can.
I know exactly where you are coming from and trust me he is the kind of guy who will always blame YOU for his actions.
RUN!!!!
2006-11-30 04:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by tamgkne 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you cheated but you did screw up.....now your going to pay hell trying to make it right....i would sit down with him and tell him how you feel and that if he keeps up with the other girl that you will leave him...and if he doesn't straighten up....leave him and don't go back....i went thru the same crap awhile back and spent 7 years trying to straighten it out, it never did, and we both got hurt in the process...good luck
2006-11-30 04:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by glduke2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you didnt do anything wrong. he is making a exscuse so he can cheat. the 2 of you need to talk. communication is key
2006-11-30 04:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by Albertus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋