How come there is a doubled standard?

Question

Ok that guy who played Kramer on Seinfield (the one who made those comments) and appolgised). Im not a racist or anything, its just Im confused. Howcome when a black person says "nigar" and stuff its ok but when a white person say it it becomes a huge mess. I personally dont like the word I think its rude and derogitory and I think no one should use it (black or white) and I wouldnt want to be friends with anyone who says that word or others like it. I was just curious.

Answer 1

His specific use of it was with malicious intent.

It's like ****** or queer, you don't just call any gay person that, you might if you're friends with them, but you don't use it with any old gay person.

Words have different meanings depending on who you're using them with and where you are.

Answer 2

It is in the way the word is pronounced. When a black person is referring to another in that manner, it's "****-a." There almost always is never an "er" at the end of it. I know this because I have asked friends and other people I have met along the way and they have all said the same thing. Now the term "****-er" does have an actual meaning that was never derogatory. It simply meant darker anything not white. But because of a bad time in a very young U.S. The term got twisted and is now probably one of the most offensive words in the English language.

Answer 3

I guess there is a little bit of one, although what I notice and can understand is it's OK for blacks to say it to each other because it's more of -- i don't know the word I'm looking for here -- like an "affectionate" or "brotherly" term for them since they were not the ones who used it in a derogatory manner in the first place. Personally, I think this world would be a LOT better off if we got more offended with some people's ACTIONS, not WORDS.

Answer 4

I agree with you but note that every single group does it. It seems to be okay for us to make fun of 'our own' but when someone else does it, a fire starts. Also, I have watched comedians poke fun at other ethincities, Chinese, Asian Indians, Latinos but there has never been much provocation against it because those groups did not have the same horrid history in the US as Black Americans did.

Answer 5

I do agree that it is a double standard. I don't understand how such an offensive word could be used as a term of endearment, especially when the only difference is the skin color of the person saying it. I don't like the word and I definitely don't use it myself.

Answer 6

There are things that you can tolerate ONLY from people that are in the same boat as yourself.

I am fat. When I hear a fat joke from another fat person - I can laugh. But if I hear a fat joke from a 5'10 120 lbs blonde girl- I don't believe I would find that funny.

Like siblings- I can make fun of my sister all day. Let someone else make fun of her and I won't stand for it.

Answer 7

Sounds to me there is no double standard in how you feel. I feel the same as you, so practice this and continue to set the example for others to follow. And they will, in time. Peace be with you.

Answer 8

i don't have a problem with the word( it means "an ignorant person") as long as it's used in the CORRECT CONTEXT and has nothing to do with the color of skin someone has.
i am american indian and am darker skinned than a lot of 'black' people.

takes one to know one.

Answer 9

You wouldn't complain if a white person called you a cracker or a honky would you? That isn't a double standard.

Answer 10

if a race or people wishes to reserve the right of use of self derogatory terms, as appaling as this may be, one may have to just watch by the sidelines