I'm 22, currently in a dead end relationship. For some reason, I'm beginning to get this sense of urgency in finding a potential husband. I mean, ideally I'd like to get married around 27 or 28. Right now I feel like I need to find a nice boy. Date him for a few years... if it works out, get engaged... if it doesn't work out, find someone else. This sounds perfectly logical right? I want to fulfill my goals within a certain timeframe. Yet at the same time... it seems irrational. What do you think?
2006-11-29 20:04:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please read the classic Cinderella Complex. It helps explain a lot of the urges women have regarding marriage including the irrational ones. Your plan sounds sensible in that you want to do a few things, experience your own life, develop your own line of work (very important that a woman has her own source of income as this also means emotional freedom and independence and self worth)...and there IS plenty of time to make a decision that does affect decades of your life. Err on the side of hesitation always especially on emotinal issues.
2006-11-29 20:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by mayayucatan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women mature faster than a man. If you feel that you are in a dead end relationship get out of it because neither of you love each other. when I was your age I felt the same. I was in a lot of hurtful relationship's put you learn from them. All women deserve to feel loved and have security in there life. I got together with the man I married at 26 and we feel in love had a little boy together and got married when we were together for 10 years. He treats my like a goddess. what I am getting at don't rush it because a strong relationship has lots of love. We are also the best of friends.
2006-11-30 04:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't too young to find someone and get married. If you're feeling anxious, get out of this relationship you're in now (you're totally wasting your time) and put yourself in clean environments where you can potentially find a good man who could end up being a good husband for you one day.
Don't run from a potential marriage, but don't over-do it. Let it happen. Things will fall into place when they're right. You'll know it when it's right.
Good luck!
And know that these feelings of yours are natural. We're here to get married and have babies! :)
2006-11-30 04:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your goals... The word date is called that for a reason. Your only 22, Have fun when your not working hard towards your future. Establish friendships not relationships and keep your goodies locked away! Going out DUTCH (paying your own way) keeps him for expecting anything you are not ready to offer. But if he insist on paying don't turn down the invitation, But make sure that you have both discussed the out come of the date. egreen3rd
2006-11-30 04:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by egreen3rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking with many different people and family members as well, 22 is actually a little young nowadays. Many of those young couples don't last , do you really want to end up in a love-less marriage?
I say take your time, have fun, don't rush it.
You'll meet someone who's worth it, when you're not looking for love is when it finds you.
2006-11-30 04:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't seem irrational, you have a plan which is more than you can say for most people. If you want to be married by 28 then I suggest you get started now on finding your mate. Good luck.
2006-11-30 04:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a great believer in fate, things happen when they happen for a reason. You cant live your life to a set timetable. by all means get out of the dead end relationship if you are really unhappy but take your time and enjoy life, you're still young don't be so anxious to tie your self down.
2006-11-30 04:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by bodecia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That anxious is probably because you just break up with him and to stop it you can try different things between sports, excersice, goin to the movies or do something you always want to do; now is the time you are free when the times come the right person will be there for you.
2006-11-30 04:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rei Teru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage, like any other necessity in life, will happen when the time is right. You will meet the right person. Don't worry, there are enough buses arriving at the bus-stop and it's only morning yet. Meanwhile, concentrate on your education/career (if you are so minded) and keep looking around.
2006-11-30 04:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by cs_gollum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly fine. Girls next step after school id to get a man, start a family after that. You see we are created to have the urge to love and give love and to have children. You are a woman now, not a girl anymore. Go on with your plans and if something change on the way let it be, you can plan, but He decides the outcome. lol
2006-11-30 04:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋