If you are in a relationship for more than 2 yrs and you love this person so much.But the only problem is that whenever after a night out, and he is quite drunk, he verbally and physically abused you. This only happens maybe once in 2 months.and at each occasion he apologize and promise it won't happen again and he will change. I know it is wrong but whenever he is not drunk he is so nice and loving.
2006-11-29 19:57:10 · 14 answers · asked by sweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-29 19:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No matter what I say to you,you are going to stay with this woman beater .Make no mistake here this boy will make your life a living hell if you two decide to get married.I have seen this same thing over and over again. Always the same the husband has a hard day at work so he stops for happy hour with some of the girls and boys from the office.Comes home around 2.00 am the wife wants to no where he has been then all hell brakes lose need I go on.I no what your thinking right now your guy isn't; like that right.10 years from now when you are so frighten of him and your kids are to.Try to remember I tried to warn you just like someone tried with me and I wouldn't listen because I knew my man would not hurt me like that.
2006-11-29 20:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie the more you stay with him.. The more your hurting urself... Love is so strong.. And its blinds the imperfections we see in people.. But if he's abusing you, there's no way you can hide those marks on ur body... Or the wounds of hurt feelings.. You'll hurt worst in the inside if he verbally abuses you. Trust me, i've been down the same road. And i thought i was all alone..But lucky thing i had people behind me to help. And there are places u can go and recieve additional help... Abuse is abuse and should not be tolerated... Help your self.... You can only do that...........cece
2006-11-29 20:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by Cece 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help. You cant keep taking the abuse and hope it goes away cuz clearly it doesn't. If he can't go out and not get drunk to the point that he becomes abusive then he has a problem with alcohol misuse and need professional help.
2006-11-29 20:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by bodecia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NO excuse for ANY man to hit a woman, or a male partner for that matter.
He is a loser. DROP HIM NOW and DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM no matter how much he begs, cries, promises or grovels.
He hit you already, he will hit you again and again. He may kill you someday.
If you stick with him and have kids, do you think him hitting you is a good example for them?
Do you want to have a son and for him to think it is ok to treat a woman this way?
Do you ENJOY being hit and made a fool of?
Do you enjoy causing your family to be upset and concerned?
Don't you think you deserve better?
Aren't you embarrassed and ashamed to be seen with someone who does that to you?
Do you think it is normal to have to make excuses and lie about your bruises to cover for him when he is a total loser?
Get wise to yourself and kick him to the curb.
He is a NOTHING. A piece of immature crap who needs to see a shrink.
It should not be YOUR problem.
You deserve beter.
GET RID OF HIM NOW!!!!!!
2006-11-29 20:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jeezuss Jan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He said sorry and then did it again? Doesn't sound like he's really sorry about it. Don't ever let a guy abuse you! You should leave him ASAP! Before it happens again. Because he was "drunk" that's no excuse. Lots of luck to you.
2006-11-29 20:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very bad O'mpa-Loompa vipes going on with that one.. could you iimagine how bad he is going to wig out when life has his testicles in a vise with things like car payments, bills, dr., rent, etc..etc.. and then he gets drunk....
2 choices, keep him out of the liquer and let him know the next time he pulls that ... you are gone, d.
never, never put up with that... so I changed my mind... dump his ***... don't give him another chance.. he is a looser... and he has showen you his poker hand.... and it stinks like shiet.
2006-11-29 20:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there now. Unless you like being beaten. He won't change.
2006-11-29 20:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by slick chik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince him he needs help, if he wont get the help he clearly needs, it will be a sad life for u.
2006-11-29 20:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your trying to justify he's actions WITH A POOR EXCUSE NOT TO LEAVE HIM this is how it starts and you let him do it to you thats hwy he does it after the first time its one to many times already
2006-11-29 20:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋