19 yrs old and still i virgin is not that i haven't got the chance its that i would rather save my first time for my wife, unfortunately i am the only one that thinks this especially being in the military, should i wait for my wife and let her be the first and keep my morals or build experience and have fun so the first time your not horrible?
2006-11-29 19:39:46 · 23 answers · asked by Nathan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am an 18 yr. old female who is still a virgin as well, and i totally charash it. it is the most preshes thing to me. being a virgin(keeping your verginity tell your married) is very rare now days. and trust me i have had many chances to brake it several times, but i just cant do that because i would be just like all the other people. i might even end up with an unwanted pregancy, std's, aids, the shame of loosing your verginity to someone who you really dont love and care to spend time with every day of your life, for the rest of your life, ect..... i could go on all night and day listing things but i wont.
I also agree with you. i would charish it tell your married and have that be your first time. hopefually that will be her first time too. and that way you both will have something special to look forward to, and you wont really have a clue if your bad or good the first time. stay strong and keep your virginity. i know that it's hard but its possible. dont let people bolly you into it. I personally would prefure someone who is still a virgin when i marry him. best of luck. remember if you have sex just one time their is no being a vergin again.
2006-11-29 20:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by malinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. When I met my hubby he and I were both in the AF and he was 19 I was 23. I was a single mom and we did have sex before we got married but I would never have known he was a virgin. He is a computer geek, loves to read and boy did it pay off. I actually felt bad that he wasn't my first, I did make it really special for him and I think that it's a true testament for you being able to hold off and be in the military. When I was stationed overseas there were so many STDs going around...it's just not worth it honestly.
I hate to say this as a woman but always wear a condom because I know some civilian women that lie to the AD guys that they are on BC and then get pregnant to either get you to marry them for the (haha) military benefits, or to get your money because they know they can get it from your commander.
Stay true to yourself. When the right woman comes along, married or not (sometimes you just can't wait) you will know. Right now just relax that you don't have to worry about STDs or offsprings
2006-11-29 19:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by heartache 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Howzit, well you wouldn't believe it but I'm 20 & guess what i'm still a virgin ok!!keep your morals, im waiting 4 my husband one day, & it made me sooooo happy to know that there is a guy out there that is still a virgin!! u made my day, coz i didn't think there was a man that is still a virgin! so pls do me a favour not just 4 me but yourself & keep it!! it'll be worth it 1day, trust me, 4 me 2!! It just tells you what kind of persona u are, you are wonderful & you have your morals and self respect, it'll b hard!! the pressure if you meet a girl you really dig or just your friends pressuring you!! you must b an awesome guy & you're wife will be 4ever thankfull (but don't go marrying a ho now)!!!
2006-11-29 21:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, don't follow the crowd. do what you know in your heart is right. save yourself for the woman you marry. your virginity is something that you can only give away to one person, so please let that person be your wife. she'll feel so special that you were man enough to save that part of yourself just for her. I promise you this. and you are by far the strongest man in the bunch for not giving in and doing what the others are doing. you just wait and see, one day you'll be the one with the beautiful wife, and be living your dream. these other guys won't have the beautiful wife or the dream life. trust me on this one.
stay strong and take care of yourself.
2006-11-29 19:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you already love the person you're with, sexual preformance is something that you can work on together, making the relationship more fruitful. that especially applies when the other person is also a virgin. besides, you'll have plenty of time to work on it if you're married.
however, experience does have it's advantages, and the pressure of keeping your virginity can be bothersome. married men joke that pleasing a woman can be achieved by saying "yes, dear," but these are the types that have more sex in the courtship process than in marriage.
it all depends on what is more important to you, and to your ideal mate.
2006-11-29 19:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by jake806 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!!!!! You should do what u want to do... You shouldnt let other people change ur mind on what to do with ur sex life.....I think its good that u want to wait for that special someome(maybe because im a women) I wish there were more men with morals like urself and whoever u choose to give it up to is going to be a very lucky women and u will be a happy man that u waited because it was something u decided and not others.There are too many diseases out there and unwanted pregnancies and a military man like urself wouldnt want to have something like that happened. Good luck on decision.
2006-11-29 19:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would be surprised to know most women would prefer a man with morals...these days there are so many men out there doin it with every woman they see just to put a notch on their belt..If you really love this woman,,then wait..I respect the fact you have morals and have set yourself apart from the standards of other men..Would be wonderful if more men were like you but the sad part is most arent...Your woman is a very blessed woman indeed for having a man who loves her enough to wait...I Applaud you sir....I pray for you and your lady now and forever
2006-11-29 19:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by glowworm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you aren't the only one. It's a matter of personal choice/morals. If you want to wait, that's your decision. I think it's better to wait for someone you truly love and decide then if its worth it. Definitely don't throw it away on someone who doesn't mean very much to you..since it's something you'll probably remember for a very long time.
2006-11-29 19:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by sweetienat123 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KEEP YOUR MORALS, some women only marry men who never had sex before. I find this extremly attractive and its the best trait for any man. You can learn together and become better together, and your sex life will alst longer because your not getting old with things as fast becuase you havnt dont it every other day.
2006-11-29 19:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by GodWillSaveMe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 13:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by elidia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋