my gf says she treats me badly and wants to breakup cause i deserve better, i come home, shes drunk, she tells me her roomate told her i compared her to roomates x and that he is a user and horrible company, her roomate says it was a misunderstanding, it was, being drunk she takes it the wrong way and tells me i better leave cause shes about to take a bottle of aspirin, upon hearing this i break down to tears and tell her im not leaving knowing you are going to do something, but what do i do, she has had many addictions lately, and is miserable, she won't go to a therapist cause they might put her on meds, she won't have that, a.a is not even an option, she is refusing help, but she admitted she has a problem, i'm scared she will do something when no one is around, she can get alcohol and pills when she wants, please help, i love her, but i can't help her if she pushes me away. she might not remember this tomorrow but i need advice i know the obvious, doctor, phone line tips seem best
2006-11-29 19:38:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's a good thing that you are taking her threats seriously, some would brush it off as drunken babble. While some people may get more depressed while drunk that off, it's possible (as you are most likely aware of) that she fells like this even when she isn't drunk. So, it is a good thing that you are seriously concerned for her well being. It's a pity she won't consider taking medication, i personally do (for depression) and it really helps me. Is she totally against counselling as well? She might be up for that, if so you should suggest it to her. Even if they do prescribe her medication i do not think she has to take it, only in extreme situations is a person forced medication and i don't think that would apply here. If you are seriously concerned that she may harm herself, you need to call a doctor right now and ask what to do. She may be committed to a hospital for 72 hours for a psych evaluation, and if that happens she may be upset with you, but it is far better than her being dead because she od'ed. And even in a worse situation she will likely 'forgive' you and actually be happy you got help when she most needed. You must get help now, if she is considering suicide there is likely little you can do, she needs professional help and intervention. This may seem intimidating to you, i know it would seem that way if i was in your situation, but you need to get her help now. I hope you take this advice to heart, if a person is commited to the idea of suicide they can be very crafty at going about this. Now, i'm not saying that she is crazy, or even that she is suicidal when she is not drunk, but like they say better safe than sorry. I hope you try this, i know that if she really is considering taking her life she will thank you latter for helping her. Best of luck, i hope all goes well =)
-sarah
2006-11-29 19:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help real bad.Maybe a intervention w/family and loved ones. I know from experiance,I spent several years addicted to drugs. I had to lose everything twice even my life!! it has to stop before something serious then again it can all be a cry for attention in the worst way. Dont let her use her threats as a way to push you around,but do listen to her. In the end she just might be needing attention. She's deffinately not well. Try to get her help ,talk to her parents wether she says she hates you or not. If you care at all DO THIS SOON!!! dont let a cry go unheard life is too short and beautiful to let slip by HELP HER!!
2006-11-29 20:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf does no longer choose remedy now. Your selections is amazingly straight forward, stay round and be manipulated each and every of the time. continuously saving her from suicide attempt and drama. she will be able to stay her safe practices information superhighway, despite the indisputable fact that it received't make her use/drink any a lot less. you'll purely might want to artwork better sturdy. the finest ingredient to do is to stroll away. She would truly kill herself (no longer that she truly needs to, purely that she is SO used that someone continuously stops her from teh very last deed.) If she is alive in some months, and needs remedy; then you fairly can help her. At this level, you are able to purely be used through her; your selection.
2016-10-08 00:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf does now not want cure now. Your picks may be very easy, stay around and be manipulated always. Consistently saving her from suicide attempt and drama. She will continue to be her defense web, but it is going to now not make her use/drink any less. You're going to just have to work more difficult. The fine thing to do is to stroll away. She could rather kill herself (now not that she particularly wishes to, simply that she is SO used that anyone always stops her from teh final deed.) If she is alive in a few months, and wants remedy; then that you would be able to support her. At this stage, that you can simply be used by her; your option.
2016-08-09 23:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you two talk about what happens when she sobers up? What does she say than? If it's denial, I wouldn't worry to much. I hate to hear about anyone threatening death. Could you possibly get in touch with a community therapist, and see if they would call her? Or, get a number you could have her call while she is drunk? Don't tell her who your calling, and dial the phone and hand it to her. Might piss her off, but it also might get her started in the right direction. I think she is crying out loud for help, and so far-thank God she has you...I hope it's no game on her part...
2006-11-29 19:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is very immediate and very dangerous. She is very likely to kill herself but you can stop it.
Call 911 and tell them where she is and what she said. They won't arrest her, they'll take her to be evaluated by professionals who will determine two things. Is she mentally ill and is she a danger to herself or others. Psychiatric patients can refuse medication and then it's illegal to give it to them so she won't have to take anything she doesn't want to.
This IS an emergency. Call.
2006-11-30 15:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Avalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a licenced clinical counselor and take her there yourself. Don't take her to a psychiatrist, they're sure to put her on meds.
2006-11-29 20:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u really commit suicide by consuming a bottle of aspirin? i thought it always were sleeping pills.
2006-11-29 20:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U JUST NEED TO SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME WITH HER.....KNOW WHAT PROBLEMS IS SHE FACING WITH YOU OR LIFE.....
U SAID U LOVED HER.....TAKE A BREAK FROM WORK/STUDY & GO OUT OF TOWN WITH HER....
PAMPER HER A LITTLE...MAKE HER FEEL IMPORTANT & WANTED....SHOW YOUR LOVE TO HER......TALK TO HER....LISTEN TO HER....
THIS WILL SOLVE ALL UR ISSUES
2006-11-29 19:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by CB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋