She asked us to leave Thanksgiving because he took his spill proof sippy cup into her living room. A rule I was not aware of. Christmas is coming up, and I am not looking foward to hearing what a irresponsible parent I am. I admit, he does not behave like her kids, but he is only two. Is it wrong to let him be a toddler. Rules are easier to understand with age, right?
2006-11-29 19:37:22 · 6 answers · asked by ckgene 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You need to sit down without any of the kids around and talk to your sister. Tell her that you love her. You love her children and would really like to be comfortable getting together for the Holidays and at other times too, but that you child has to come first. If she has a problem with something that your child is doing then she needs to make you aware of it, not the child. If she has specific rules that she wants followed, in the house, that's fine, but she needs to make you aware of those rules. Even after you are all clear on the rules, she needs to have some patience. He's only two and does not understand why he can drink a sippy in the living room at home, but not at your sister's house. Tell her that you are willing to do whatever possible to follow her rules, but that she in return has to respect you authority as the child's parent. Let her know that it will take making lots of mistakes before your little one is emotionally or mentally able to follow her rules 100% and if she is willing to be more open and more patient, than you are willing to work with your son to follow her rules. Remind her how important the Holidays are to you and that you don't want little resentments getting in the way of enjoying a GREAT day together!
2006-11-30 01:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Concerned Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you join her for Christmas? I don't know why but it sounds like she was looking for an excuse to ask you to leave. Stay home Christmas. Put some egg nog in the ole sippy cup and watch parades on TV. Spill a little if you want :-)
2006-11-30 03:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but your sister is an idiot! He's 2! He doesn't know that he's being loud,or clumsy.I doubt he meant to spill his cup,or that he wasn't allowed to drink in the living room(does he drink in your living room because then he would think it's alright there too)If she gives you grief on Christmas I would smile politely and tell her you know what your doing he's your child and you have told him the rules.Try to make the best of the holidays.
2006-11-30 03:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kellie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is very unreasonable ur poor child is acting the way 2 yr olds are supposed to be acting it is not wrong to let him enjoy being a toddler talk to your sister say it to her like this:he is only a toddler u should understand that if you cant accept that then im never going to see you and ur kids again...after that if she still doesnt accept dont see her till christmas
2006-11-30 04:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? I hate it when people tell me how to treat or raise my daughter! I ignore them. I wouldn't have left. I would've taken her into another room and tell her not to imbarasse you like that, and mind her own business. If she told you to leave infront of your child tell her that you don't want him to be rule like you were so you're thinking of not joining them for christmas! But you should still go, she's your sister. there might be something else wrong. ask her if she's ok!
2006-11-30 03:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by vetsmom_rgv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you're sister is unreasonable and to ask you to leave on a holiday for a violation of her rules is ridiculous. It sounds more like she has deeper issues and this is her excuse to get to you.
2006-11-30 03:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋