I went on a date and and we had sex the next day. I really want to get to know him, but haven't heard much back from him since we did it. He really was interested in me before we did it, and now I am not sure. How will I know if he still wants to get to know me, even though it was a mistake to do it to early. Does he think I am just a casual sex or hoe?
2006-11-29 19:33:56 · 24 answers · asked by girly37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately for us girls guys can be real sleazy and if he wasnt interested in you after the sex then dont bother. Any guy who is worth it doesnt need any chasing if he likes you then he should come to you. If hes gone cold then he must have been just in it for the thrill of baggin you so dont worry about his opinion and enjoy whatever you had no matter how brief it was. If he really wants to get to know you you'd be hearing from him regularly
2006-11-29 19:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Em 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-30 03:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's a GUY! What do you think? If he's truly interested, give him a few days to a week to see if he calls you. Did you discuss seeing each other again? Or did ya just hook up after meeting in a bar - in which case you're probably not the first hook-up he's had & probably won't call back. Like my momma said, why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free? Good luck!
2006-11-30 03:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Taya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men are pigs... all we want is for you to put out then get out.
No, I am not that way (well, maybe I was a few times), but most men are.
Please, girls... unless all you want is sex, don't put out so damned early in the realtionship. Give the guy a chance to get to know you.. to desire and cherish you. We'll nail a slutlike woman in a heartbeat, but if a genuine, pure woman puts out too soon, we'll label her a s-l-u-t then move on to another beause it is we who are the real sluts.
Sorry, but that is the dark truth about us men, so no matter what they tell you early on... don't believe it... let time prove it. If they don't have enough patience to wait to truly get to know you, then they were not worth it in the first place, no matter how cute or hott they are... or in this case, WERE.
2006-11-30 04:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were too rushy in having sex. It seems that he is not much interested in you, he got what he wanted and now the issue has been closed for him. But still i suggest you to talk with him once....... only once !! And DO NOT let him do sex with you this time. Just talk about your relation, if you don't get satisfied with his replies..... then stop thinking about him. In that case you would have to accept that he got what he wanted and now you mean nothing to him.
I wish Best Of Luck to you !!
I firmly believe you will find your true love soon !!
2006-11-30 03:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by shon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you slept with him so early on he thinks your easy. And that is never good. Being easy makes you no longer a challenge. So, don't call him at all. It might take him a month before he calls bc he thinks your easy. I would move on if I was you and If he calls in a months time, that's good, otherwise you will have already moved on. Next time wait at least 3-4dates (best a month) before you sleep with him.
2006-11-30 03:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex
2006-11-30 03:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by manang bruka 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie I am sorry to say he only wanted you for one thing..It is a very hard lesson for girls/women to learn...Is why it is so important to really know someone before offering something so precious..The only time I think he will get in touch with you is if he needs sex again and the next girl/woman he is with wont give it to him...So hun,,Im sorry but your an outlet for him now..Dont allow that to happen...Take your time and you will find someone who will want to get to know all about you before even thinking of sex with you...These days is all most people think about...Girls/women think if a guy wants sex from them then that means he is really interested in them or they love them..then truth hits and it hits hard..I am so very sorry this happened to you and you are in my prayers..Respect yourself enough to from now on,,wait till you are so sure of someone within your deepest of heart and soul before allowing a man to have that part of you...God bless
2006-11-30 03:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by glowworm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Nope not coming back. Sorry....next time make him wait if you really like him. If he won't wait then who wants him anyway? If he will wait and pursues you, well then I'd say that's a win win situation. It means you got a guy with interesting possibilities on your hands...just hope you know what to do with him...
2006-11-30 03:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by hhhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have more will power girl .sex is not love .
He probably has a lower opinion of you then he would have other wise ,but then again he made a pass at you on your first date .Why?
2006-11-30 03:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋