first we were in love & we broke up,now at present we r good friends.He dosenot hide any thing 2 me nor I.The way he speaks is I fell he is trying 2 make me jealous.Every time he asks me how's ur boy friend & when ever i ask he says different girl's name every time.He also always tries to impress me. I'm totally confused whether he loves me or not?
2006-11-29 18:26:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First thing's first, I was chuckling a bit when I read the question so I apologize for that one. But this kind of remind me of a buddy of mine back in college who did the same thing with his ex girlfriend.
I'd look at two major viewpoints that would help you understand a broader picture than the one you are currently thinking. These two viewpoints may contradict, but it comes to an agreeable answer to your problem. The first bit is that most guys would usualy go on a slump after a breakup, that is, if they can take it well. Given to the nature of your question, it appears that he wants to make a clear understanding that he harbor no hard feelings. You, on the other hand, felt that it is the sweetest thing (I'd assume, but you can correct me on that) and he's mature enough to remain being friends with you.
The second bit is that he's at a loss on how to probably take you back. It's a shocker, and guys do have their own pride and ego not to crawl on their hands and knees to take you back (unless he truly loves you, but that's being needy if you ask me). So he's giving you the jealousy card, that is, if you make a play for it, if not he'd go for the guilt card.
For him to recall a few girl's names indicate that he's trying to make you feel jealous, but if you're not biting then he'd probably mellow out after awhile. Going overboard would ruin the ex-ex friendship that you two have come to terms with. But you have to look at yourself for a bit and see if the second time around would truly work this time. So he calls you up and tells you of his nightly adventures with some unknown chick he would probably mention another after a few minutes. He just wants to know if you have this jealous streak to make his move and take you back (possibly). But you've known him, and at one point he's sincere enough not to hurt you despite of the fact that he did at some point in your relationship. Regardless of the outcome you just have to face him at one point and see if the second time around would truly work, if not at least you can ease your mind knowing that he's there for you.
2006-11-29 18:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by once_a_nerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to remember about love is that it is an emotion. You say you were in love, then you broke up, and now you are good friends. If you are good friends, I'd be concentrating on working on just that. I don't think he's trying to make you jealous, I think he's digging for information (which is really none of his business), and you're asking him about girlfriends certainly isn't any of your business. This isn't what good friends do, and then feel confused and ask whether he loves you or not. Are you still in love with him? Do you want to be back with him? Does he love you? Does he want to be back with you? If you're still in love with him, I'd be sitting down as a friend and asking if I can have a serious talk with him. Perhaps you'll get the answers you want, and perhaps you won't - BUT at least you'll know whether you should be just a friend or get on with being in love together. And, what about your boyfriend now? If you aren't in love with him, why are you with him? Perhaps he's in love with you, and right now you are trying to figure out whether or not your ex boyfriend loves you or not. You are going to have to choose one or the other. The major rule of this game is that before you ever become lovers, you MUST become friends, because when the loving stops dear lady, it is the friendship that will keep you together. Total honesty with everyone concerned would be the best approach. What it all boils down to is which one is going to be hurt.
2006-11-30 02:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jayngelcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an ***.But trust me all men are ***'s cause when it came to showing our emotions we totally screw up
He probably still dose love you.....The is no way your ex could ever be just you friend....People often believe it or force it to work that way but one way or anther the love will show
Sit him down tell him to act his age and listen nicly to what you about to tell him...Tell exactly how you feel that you confused and still might have feelings for you..
If he say he has you in
If he says there is sameone else then you cant at lest have the true at hand
2006-11-30 02:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by heath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be trying to make you jealous but unless you ask him if he wants to get back together, you'll never know. The question isn't whether he loves you but whether you love him?
2006-11-30 02:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by raduodogi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask yourself thst question then he probably doesn't and to me he is being a jerk by calling different females names around you especially, when he knows that you surely still have feelings for him.
2006-11-30 02:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him well at least I can keep a boyfriend,or ask him why he cant keep a girl for more than one week
2006-11-30 03:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to me...
yes i still think that he loves you...
as it is easy to turn friendship into love but difficult to turn love into friendship....
2006-11-30 02:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by vivek k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you can do better...so dont wait
2006-11-30 02:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2006-11-30 02:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋