My boyfriend is 26 hes a good guy but im not comfortable with the fact that hes had a dozen girls before me, but he is faithful though. but hes my first boyfriend. we been together for about 5 months. Am i just trippin because hes my first and hes been with other people before me? but no one wants something someones already had right? or should i be dating younger guys to begin with? is he just settling for me cause im 18? guys just like young girls?
2006-11-29 18:12:49 · 16 answers · asked by IWonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though many people say, "Love has no age difference" there is. Point blank.
First of all, if you trust him 100% and you love him then don't worry about the women before you. Those were just mistakes that lead up to you.
Secondly, yes he's older. But NEVER, EVER let him pressure you into doing something that you don't want to or most importantly, not ready for. Just because his ex's did such and such all the time or something, doesn't mean that you do to. Make him realize that.
Thirdly, I'd test the waters. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Just take it all in stride, chances are that this might not be your "one" but it's all a learning process. So what you don't date younger guys? The more you date, the more you learn the specifications of the type of man you want to be with in the future. Enjoy yourself, but don't lose yourself!
2006-11-29 18:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I wouldnt worry. Infact, I think it would be nice to have some one with more experience as long as their isnt baggage. My last boyfriend had a way higher number than that before he was devoted to me. It doesnt matter the number. But I would be careful with the age difference and make sure he isnt just using you as a naive girl for sex. If he respects you, he will treat you well.
2006-11-30 02:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ill answer your question about 12 people before you... 12 is a good number in todays society. its not too many and its not too less. it just means that he has experienced different aspects to his life while trying to find the right woman. since he is 26 and your 18 it presents challenges in your relationship, like children and marriage. most men tend to want to settle down and start a family at about that age. for you thats too soon... you have to much to explore in your life before that. Dont hold how many partners he has had against him, because when your 26 you might have pretty close to that too.
2006-11-30 02:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by bluedice16 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im 18 and i was dating a guy who was like 29. It totally intimidated me that he was with so many girls before me, but he was a really good guy. I think you should try not to focus on that so much. Go with your gut. are you comfortable with him? are u embarassed b/c hes older? would you rather be with someone closer to your age? There isnt really any specific rules. you just have to trust how you feel.
2006-11-30 02:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by dolce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same age difference as myself and my last girlfriend. I imagine she felt the same as you and has even said some of those things to me. I haven't been with that many women but one thing she failed to realize is I didn't settle I chose her because of who she is. Its not that he has been around the block as much as he has had plenty of experience in what he didn't need or want. For myself our age never really came to mind, I am simply in love with her and we just seemed to fit so well together and I believe she is my soul mate. I hope and am waiting for the day she returns to me, even if it is just a dream. Don't take someones love for granted no matter what the age.
-NmD!
2006-11-30 02:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 39 and I've been dating eighteen year olds for 20 years.... and so will this guy, I guarantee it. if you want a real relationship then the guy that will wait for a year is the guy that loves you......plain and simple. He's had more than 12 chicks, don't be naive.
2006-11-30 02:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me there's nothing wrong on having a guy whos age is older than you, you know i've tried it already he cares for me like an older brother and i like it very much. if he is faithful even if he had a lot of girls before so continue in your relationship with him... there is nothing to be afraid of except if he is really rude to you. and also i advice you to pray to God if he is really faithful on you or not....
2006-11-30 02:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by glaiza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like being with him, and he likes being with you. Don't worry about it. As long as you care for one another that's all that matters anyway. There's nothing you can do about how many girls he's had in the past, You have a past too... He's with you now. You sound kinda paranoid!
2006-11-30 02:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R trippin. Guys love young girls sometimes, mine is 7 years younger than me!!!!!!!!!!!! DO NOT WORRY!!!!! At least he knows what to do for u now!!! I hope!
2006-11-30 02:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the pass, think of the future, if he's honest with you know, and care for you well, why dont you go with him, when you are very sure that you will have a good company.
2006-11-30 02:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋