I've got this girl im going on my first date with on friday. Well i've clicked, all to the point when i asked her if she does drugs. She says she smokes with her sister while watching movies. and i'm very agenst drug usage. I like her and all, but i dont know. Am i closed minded? I cant change her and i understand that. whatshould i do? I like her.
2006-11-29 17:45:34 · 17 answers · asked by Luis G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Theres no right or wrong answer. If you like her, and you obviously seem like you do... you could consider reevaluating your view on drugs. And you could consider that its possible if you two got more serious, and as things changed in her life, she may stop doing that. For instance, if you two were to get married, she prob wouldnt still be smoking pot. But if its the idea that she would even do it that bothers you, maybe thats not something you want to compromise for. But it wouldn't be a bad thing if you reevaluated how you looked at drugs. Weed is probably the least addictive and least harmful drug there is. So.. it's up for you to decide if you can accept her how she is, because you certainly couldn't expect her to change. But whatever you decide, I would say you should encourage her to continue to be open with you. And you could always ask her casually if things got serious between you would she consider quitting? :)
2006-11-29 17:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Snowboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated many a drug user and I can safely say from experience - stay away. They are nice and all, till you bring up the drugs then you see what it has done to them you hear things like:
"don't make me choose between you and pot"
"I can outsmoke that kid, watch this"
"Oh yeah, I got high. You know, like, I am hungry all the time. Wait, are you cool?"
And then, what do they do, well they are on drugs so they have no judgement, so why not cheat on you. You'll never know.
Any women that does drugs cannot have good judgement.
If you date her, you don't have good judgement.
I think you should call her and tell her you cannot date her because she does drugs. Then let her figure out the hard way what it is doing to her.
2006-11-29 17:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mr B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well, first off are you against alcohol? Marijuana certainly isn’t any worse, it’s just illegal. I’m against drug (and alcohol) use too, but I’m not against people. People use drug sometimes and that doesn’t make them bad or evil. Still, if you are against drug use, it is a bad idea to get mixed up with a girl who is into drugs even though it’s hard to turn down someone you really like. If you do go out with her, I think you’re just going to end up hurt and frustrated or you may end up changing your way of thinking, but if you do that you should do it just because you like a girl, you should do it because of your own thinking on the subject.
Long answer short: I wouldn’t get serious with her if I were you. Try being just friends for now until you figure out who you are a little more.
2006-11-29 17:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think you're close minded... you have to look at it this way... do you like this girl enough that you're willing to look beyond her bad habit... or is it just not worth it? If you choose the girl, are you going to regret it? Will her bad habit bother you even more? Will it increase your views on smoking/drugs? Will it soften them? Do want your views to change? Do you want your views on drugs and the such to decrease? Keep asking until you find the "side" you're more in favor with.
2006-11-29 17:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Standards are yours to define. If you break or lower your standards, you have only yourself to answer to.
Me, I'd tell her, sorry, I really like you but I can't date someone who does drugs, it's just important to me. The ball is in her court. I suspect she'll continue smoking, and that's ok - you will find the right girl eventually, and you'll be justifiably proud that you didn't back down.
2006-11-29 17:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends how much this bothers you really...If she smokes once in awhile it really doesn't make her a bad person...You will always find faults in people..nobody is perfect...she might just not making the right decisions at times...although I would make sure it's not a regular habit...maybe when you get closer to her she may just want to stop for you?
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2016-12-10 18:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good advice is to find another girl with your same intrests. This is bad news,you will fall in love and get hooked like her or be against it and have her doing it with every guy or friend around the block behind your back.....
2006-11-29 17:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by flaca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you think about drugs and smoking.
If she doesn't reacts or just rolls her eyes, forget it. Not worth it.
Check on her. Tell her honestly. She might join your team.
2006-11-29 17:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by Curio-ous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't feel comfortable about the drug uses and is very against it then u shouldn't date her at all. just gonna lead to problems.
2006-11-29 17:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋