Everytime I eat with two people I know they carry on talking and never talk about something we all can talk about. I end up being quiet for 10 minutes or more until they finish their conversation. I don't want to be nosy so I don't ask questions. I asked once and they ignored me and continued talking. I was always told that when your eating with people you should talk about something that everyone can talk about. If you have a specific thing you want to tell someone, but don't want anyone to know, you should wait after dinner. Does anyone agree or not?
2006-11-29 17:25:04 · 18 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
also..they always invite me to sit with them. i try to avoid them but they call me over.
2006-11-29 18:28:57 · update #1
I agree with u. Try starting the conversation b4 they get a chance to or make comments (but not necessarily questions) see if u can get urself in there somewhere. If not, try eating with someone else..Or (just thought of this) try bringing a book with u n reading. When they ask just simply n nicely say that since ur not usually part of the conversation u thought u'd read. Might work!?
Good luck!
2006-11-29 17:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that is very rude. They should think about how this may make you feel because they are having a conversation and then you feel left out. It is actually in my religion, that we are not allowed to do this because it can hurt the 3rd person's feelings. Also, it is inappropriate for two people to talk in a different language in front of the third person because it may make them feel like you are talking about them. Why don't you try and join in on what they're saying? Or next time you have dinner, why don't YOU start a conversation? This way, you know that you will have something to say.
2006-11-30 10:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person... it's not like a set rule that everyone has to discuss something everyone knows. Even if that's how you're brought up, believing that, not everyone is like that. If you don't feel like you should butt in, well, that's your problem. If you attempt once to get into it and it failed, attempt again. Keep asking... "Wait wait wait... what are we talking about?" or "Who's
If that to you is nosy, then that's that. You'll be staying quiet for a while, then, because whether it's considered rude or not, it happens.
2006-11-30 02:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's rude. When there's many people together it's polite to talk about something everyone can talk about. It's rude to exclude someone like that.
Sometimes people don't even realize that they're doing this. You could try to mention it to them next time how you feel like a third wheel when you're with them because they always talk about something you can't really join in on. Maybe they'll try to avoid doing it once they're aware of it.
2006-11-30 07:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes that is very rude.
They are sitting right there... so they are pretty much treating you like your invisible.
I would get up and walk away..
then they could have there little convo..
When they want to include you again well.. that's up to you if you want to go back and speak with them.
I personally wouldnt accept a friend or aquatance treating me like im nothing and ignore my questions to include everyone in the conversation.
Im sure if you walk away and eat elsewhere.. They will get the hint.
2006-11-30 01:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
This is RUUUUUDDDDEEEE . I used to do that to ppl until it happened to me and i understood that even though I did not mean to ignore the third person, it must have her her feelings. I am becoming more careful when am having conversations to speak about topics that everybody understands. ASK THEM TO INCLUDE U IN THE CONVERSATION IF THEY DO NOT GO EAT WITH OTHER PPL>
2006-11-30 03:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by gala-day 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They sympathise with you that you are alone and need the company but they do not realise that they are excluding you from their conversation which is just as bad as being alone. The next time they ask you to join them, don't. Better to be eating alone then to be ignored being with them.
2006-11-30 11:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreed.
2006-11-30 01:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This just doesn't make sense. They invite you over but refuse to talk to you. Something's missing here.
2006-11-30 10:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, you have a point. However, it sounds like these two people may be trying to give you a hint. Perhaps they don't want you to eat with them. Next time, wait for their invitation or find someone else to eat with.
I know if I was with a good friend, I wouldn't want to have to explain every story to an outsider, especially if that person invited herself to sit with us.
2006-11-30 01:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋