I dated someone for 2 years & last week we decided that we need some time apart... An ex of mine asked me to dinner & we have always had this amazing chemistry; if something were to happen, would I bet a cheating whore?!?
2006-11-29 17:08:43 · 10 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u are on a break u still are together, just need some space and time to think things over....dont do anything stupid u will regret later or hurt the person.
2006-11-29 17:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I can tell that your heart is torn between both of these people that you obviously have strong feelings for. I have tried to be in a relationship with two people at once in the past (I had a fiance living up north and had a relationship with someone else in the south where i went to college). I found, however, that after a while (after the initial infatuation phase) with the new individual it will become clear which person you desire the most. Whoever starts giving you the "tummy tickles" (be it the ex or the new person) is the one you need to go after. In my opinion it is perfectly cool to love both of them at the same time (believe me there are FAR worse crimes than tossing out a little extra love) until it becomes apparent which one captures your heart. If you play the "game" the way society (and your current love) expects you to by breaking up with one person before going after another you very well might find yourself a lonely and unhappy old man. I've become emotionally callous to so called "cheating" a long time ago and have a clear understanding now that you need to basically go by the rule that "everything is fair in love and war" and find your true love. If I had not acted as stated above, I would not be happily married with a new baby (a miracle in my eyes) now. I hope you trust I am a good person because I speak from my heart. It is time for you my friend to listen to your heart right now. Do whatever you need to do to give both people a chance at capturing your heart. It is a noble cause and worth any guilt you may encounter during the process. Your heart and your soul will thank you for the sacrifice. True happiness awaits, but like all good things it comes with a price. Pay it in full and the guiding light of love will lead your heart to it's rightful owner.
2006-12-03 01:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's NOT cheating. Also what you do while you are on ur break is YOUR business. Personally, when a girl tells me she needs time apart or a break, I KNOW what it really means. It means she wants to explore.
So when that happens I just say "nah, let's break up permanently" this whole "time apart' is bullsheet. If u and I can't work things out being together then it's time for both of us to move on and find someone else."
So no, it's not cheating, but it could be a sign that your relationship is over. "Time apart" doesn't work.
2006-11-29 17:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , you would. A break isn't a get out of jail free card, its a time to think about hte realtionship on your own without discussing stuff with your partner. When you come back together after the break , you talk again and your heads are clearer.
2006-11-29 17:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to "break" up a relationship then BREAK UP I never could understand this "we need a break" thing. Either you are in a committed relationship or you aren't. If your going to date other people then it is not a committed relationship period.
2006-11-29 17:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes but only if you know you'll be getting back together with your "on-break" boyfriend. personally i think people who need to go on "breaks" are already looking to cheat and just see it as a safe way to do so..its B.S
2006-11-29 17:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES it is cheating because your lips should be pointed at one person and one person only and thats your girlfriend that you should be committed to.and if not then there is NO maybe you dont deserve her.
2006-11-29 17:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by nikiesha b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to the person ur dating see what they think lay down some ground rules between you and stuff so yeah good luck
2006-11-29 17:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by °~°sØccer_GÏrl°~° 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you need to decide what is in your heart and just go with it. but you have to truly want what is in your heart. take care and good luck.
2006-11-29 17:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry its just change of teast
2006-11-29 17:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by killer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋