I am 32 weeks pregnant. I have 2 boys one 4 and one 2. We are supposed to go out of town for the holidays this friday to my parents and in-laws houses (they live in the same state), who live 13 hours away. Going home is already stressfull enough with the pressure of pleasing both families and being fair with our time especially because they don't see us much. Anyway my husband is leaving on business for the first two weeks in December so he won't be there to help me and then to top it all off my parents got tickets to take my whole family to Hawaii for a week right before Christmas. I will be 36 almost 37 weeks pregnant. I so don't want to go. I have cleared it with my doc, but I already feel so stressed out that I have to go home & deal with our families that I don't know if I can handle the stress of that too. I feel like I am going crazy. Am I totally selfish to want to back out & just stay home with my husband & son's? Am I getting worked up for nothing?
2006-11-29 17:05:36 · 14 answers · asked by carj_81 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You are being perfectly reasonable.I think it is crazy for your parents to expect you to go to Hawaii when you could have the baby any day. With all the stress of traveling and seeing relatives, and a trip you don't even really want to go on -- I would expect to go into labor early. I would say that your family is large enough now that maybe you should try doing your own thing for Christmas. My son is 2 and I have another coming in a few months, and this is the first time we decided to do Christmas at our own home. It will be wonderful. Your kids will love having a special thing at their own home, and extended family can be involved later. Your family and the health of your baby are most important right now -- do what you feel is right. Your family should understand and respect that! Good luck!
2006-11-29 17:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not getting worked up over nothing.
You have masses going on, 2 small children, 37 weeks pregnant and an absent husband.
What are you family thinking expecting you to go through with this crazy schedule? It amazes me how selfish some families can be.
It's time to put yourself first. What do you want? In a perfect world how would want to spend the holiday period? Think about that, and then tell everyone what you are going to do. Expect some negative reaction, as they obviously think you can run around like this, but they'll get over it.
Your first priority is your husband, children and unborn child, make sure they come first.
2006-11-30 08:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sally E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think selfish is a case where one only thinks about oneself at the expense of others. If that holds true, I do not see maintaining your sanity at your condition is hardly selfish.
I can't help to notice your wording "pleasing both families". That is a lot to ask for. There is no where that I can observe both family is giving a 32 going 37 week pregnant mom of two young ones any thought. Do stand up for your health and well being of your unborn baby. Tell your parents and in-laws that you need help, rest and their understanding.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-30 01:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by ele81946 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think you are being selfish one bit to want to stay home and be with your husband and family. Your family should understand that you are pregnant and you want to rest and be with your family. Best thing to do is do what you feel is best. The less stress you have the better it is for the baby..
2006-11-30 01:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being selfish; you are being pregnant. I can totally understand how you would feel. This were wear out any parent with small children that wasn't pregnant. I would just tell the families that the closer it comes to delivery date, the more you tire out easily, which would not be a lie. I think this excuse would make you 'save face' so to speak. Good luck to you.
2006-11-30 01:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say stay home. With the stress Christmas is causing you, I'd bow out this year. If something were to happen and you go into labor early, you'ld want to be close to your doctor. Just tell everyone you are nervous about being 13 hours away from your doctor and enjoy your quiet Christmas.
2006-11-30 01:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you feel stress, so does your baby. Clearly you should stay home. That is absolutely too much for a woman 32 weeks to manage.
Feel no guilt.
2006-11-30 01:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLY GOD NO.. I'd be pissed if i was asked to walk to the corner store with the stress you are dealing with. STAY HOME! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! You have enough on your plate and your family should understand that.
I'd be pissed having to deal with that if i had my period let alone being 37 weeks pregnant!
2006-11-30 01:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'd stay home. You will be pretty far along in your pregnancy and, if you are like most women I know, you'll be wanting to get ready for the new baby.
My daughter is expecting her first baby around Easter and believe me...I am catering to what she wants rather than my wants. Been there done that. ; )
Best wishes.
2006-11-30 01:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being selfish. Its totally understandable that you want to be close to home. You are getting ready to have a baby for goodness sakes. Take care of yourself (you know that) and don't stress.
2006-11-30 01:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by snshnbtrflis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋