ther is this girl i am in love with. we are both 16 and she knows how i feel about her. she has made it clear that she has no feelings for me, but we are really close friends. she has also made it clear that she doesn't want another boyfriend until she graduates highschool in 08. I am already out of highschool. towards the end of this school year, she will have her junior high prom... iv always wanted to dance with her or anything slightly romantic and I still would like to even though i am beginning to accept that we will never be more than good friends.. since she made it clear she waznt going to pursue any romantic relationship until 2008, which means i dont have to worry about her being too interested in someone else, would it be alright to say something to her about me being her date to the dance? It would mean so much to me, but i don't want to step out of line... I don't think that she even intends to ask anyone... if im gonna say somethin, i wanna do it before someone else does
2006-11-29 16:58:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok heres what i think ask to go to the dance with her as a friend and tell her that you respect her wishes to to got get serious or date until 08 so ask her as a friend
2006-11-29 17:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by °~°sØccer_GÏrl°~° 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would leave the issue alone and just opt to be her friend. Obviously she has made it clear and you pursuing her will only make her begin to resent you.
I have to wonder if when she says she doesn't want a relationship until 2008 that if she is saying that just to you or if she actually means it. I said that once to this one guy because I had absolutely no interest and he wouldn't leave me alone, so I told him I had no interest in being with anyone, so that he would leave me alone and stop trying. I didn't want to make him feel bad either.
I could be wrong, but it sounds like the same thing.
I hate to say all this, I don't want it to sound harsh, but it probably is what is going on.
Give her the space she has requested. Otherwise you may lose her as a friend as well. Who knows, maybe down the road she will change her opinion.
2006-11-29 17:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her! she can only answer yes or no, don't give up your feelings for her so easily, I gave in and started dating my best male friend over 6 years ago, and we have 2 beautiful children together, and are still going strong! just try not to let her know you still have romantic interests in her, she knows you are a good person since you are close friends, and she will always know someone loves her, so when you stop showing interest in her and start talking about other girls and going on dates, she will soon realize she wants to give it a shot and give you a try.....it worked for my man!
2006-11-29 17:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has made it quite clear to you that she is not interested in you, so what are you going to do with your feelings if she does say yes to go to the dance with you...ask yourself, am I setting myself up to get hurt as you may grow closer to her even more at the dance and she may still not want you romantically or she may say no to the dance and she may even feel suffocated by your persistance and eventually hate you. If you are not afraid of rejection then I guess ask her and accept the answer.
2006-11-29 17:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her but make sure she knows its not romantic. You want to go to dance and have a good time, cause you guys are close.
If you don't make that distinction she may say no, thinking you have other intentions.
2006-11-29 17:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her plans for the dance are...and if she says no one has asked her yet, then offer to go "as friends." It's a perfect way to spend time with her. Good luck!
2006-11-29 17:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that you know she doesn't want a relationship and you aren't pursuing it (and mean it) and that you've always wanted to dance with her and would she do you the honor of attending the prom as your date.
2006-11-29 17:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say "date" to her, casually say it would be fun if you both went together as friends, nothing more than that. That's a sneaky way of being with her. Remain friends with her if you're that interested in her. Friends make the best lovers.
2006-11-29 17:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by ask me ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it would be fine to ask her to a dance as a good friend would do. be her friend and who knows maybe eventually when she s ready she will respect you and who know s where this might lead. i sure wish a boy would have shown me some respect when i was young i probably would have fell in love with him good luck
2006-11-29 17:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by lotty_51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her....friends can go to a dance together, just do not get carried away.....you might ruin the friendship
2006-11-29 17:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋