Been in an intimate sexual relationship for 8 months and never got one gift. Is this a bad sign.
2006-11-29 16:43:25 · 12 answers · asked by exotica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girls if you dont do everything we want sexual does that mean you dont love us?
2006-11-29 16:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define the term "gift". It would be nice to have more information. Have you two sat down and talked about your relationship, expectations, values, rules, etc? Most couples don't and this causes all kinds of misunderstandings and perceived expectations.
You might think something is a "gift" and what he thinks is a gift could be totally different. He might think going out to dinner and spending quality time together is a gift unto itself. He might have a personal rule like I do where he doesn't buy women gifts until they have proven themselves (I'm talking about jewelry, going on an exotic vacation, etc.).
But to answer your question more directly, I really don't see how "gifts" and love can be uttered in the same sentence because they are mutually exclusive. One does not necessarily relate to the other. I am dating 2 women right now and while I'm not in love with either of them I do like one of them very much and I've bought her a couple small gifts, but that's because I am very happy with the way things are going.
She doesn't nag me.
She doesn't bring over the top drama into my life.
She's NOT an attention whore.
She's not controlling, jealous, or clingy.
And real love takes time and nothing but time to build because you've got to see consistency of a person's behavior over time. If a man really loves you he'll show it to you in other ways. He'll move heaven and earth for you (within reason of course). He'll want to do special things together. He'll introduce you to his friends and family because he's proud that you are part of his life.
Many men are also not taught to be gift givers or romantic. So I really think you're asking the wrong question. The other things I just mentioned are FAR more important than gifts. We live in a very materialistic society where people have lost sight of the really important things such as spending quality time together, being empathetic, understanding, kind, caring, sensitive, and communicating expectations. The ever-increasing divorce rate has proven that less and less of these things are being done and the really important things in relationships are being over looked.
And it's going to get worse before it gets better.
I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you've done all the things I've talked about. Have you both talked about your relationship to make sure you two are on the same wavelength?
2006-11-30 01:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In my honest opinion, if you don't buy someone something doesn't mean a thing. that is something that we have labeled ourselves to do if we care about someone. although it is the thought that counts depending on the gift some people may not like their gift so now what. he/she always buys me things i don't like. You can't put a monetary value on love. I for one don't buy my woman things but she knows how i feel because i do other things to show it. so i don't think if you don't get a gift your not loved.
2006-11-30 00:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by tre_132mp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, it depends on what the guy thinks of gifts. Ask him his opinion someday on what he thinks about birthdays, Anniversary's, etc. My wife knows I hate giving or receiving gifts as it makes me feel awkward and that I am owing to the person who gave me a gift. Maybe he's the same way ...
2006-11-30 00:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by t_man132003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. It depends on what sorta guy he is. Personally I would buy gifts, but some of my friends wouldn't. That doesn't mean they feel any different, it's just a difference in how those feelings are expressed.
2006-11-30 00:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by John Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not giving gifts to ones lover doesn't mean one doesn't love, it's means one is cheap.
2006-11-30 00:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it mean that u love her but have no money to buy gifts for her!
2006-11-30 00:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by kaas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just cheap. There's no reason for him to wooo you since he is already getting what he wants. Hopefully he pays when you guys go out.
2006-11-30 00:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't mean like zat..nd u know,presenting gift nd all depend upon person to person,some guys not that much concentrate on doing zat, even though they love thr girl very much.........if one guy love his girl very hardly,you can feel it from all his activities............k
2006-11-30 00:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by munaiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...maybe he is not into u...!
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2006-11-30 00:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋