my husband kisses my 15yo step son on the lips. im not sure if its ok or not. ive never seen him use his tongue but sometimes he places his son on his lap and plays with his hair
2006-11-29 16:40:48 · 34 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MAN YOU ARE A BULLSHIT ARTIST. EVERYONE LOOK AT HER PROFILE AND QUESTIONS. SHE JUST GETS A KICK OUT OF ASKING STRANGE QUESTIONS.
2006-11-29 16:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by The Final Answer 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures this is normal. I've seen fathers and sons kiss each other on the lips before - usually in the Italian culture. About the lap and hair part, I don't know what to say to that. I guess I'd have to see it. If it's a quick show of affection, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. But I haven't witnessed this, so I couldn't tell you.
2006-11-29 16:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by newmum06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok. Honestly I think that is totally not okay. But why is it not okay? He is the father and could just be showing fatherly love for his son, but it could also mean something else which is very very bad. I say you need to find out more information about your husband. His past and stuff. Do a little minor secret detective work. Like look for porn on the computer and watch him like a hawk when he is around your son without being too obvious.
2006-11-29 16:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be okay, but as the Mom and wife, you would probably not getting weird vibes if this were totally innocent. Do you notice that your son seems uncomfortable with these things? Is your husband odd in other ways? Does he go into the boy's room at night? Is he similarly demonstrative with adult friends? (This would be a point in the "okay" column; it would mean that this could be a normal part of his personality.) Is there a cultural context we should know about?
2006-11-29 16:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just a kiss, that's one thing - fathers can and do kiss their sons as a way of showing their love. But he's also got his son on his lap and is playing with his hair. These could be warning signs that other, far more unsavory, stuff is going on.
Keep your eyes open - their might be some sexual abuse going on here!
2006-11-29 16:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some families lip kissing is OK between members. I had a friend in public who when she kissed her dad, it was always on the lips. If you have a problem with it, it is a problem and you should talk to your husband about it.
2006-11-29 16:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO.
It is wrong in so many ways! The kissing on the lips is really bad, but the sitting on the lap is not acceptable! I have heard some ugly stories that started out like yours....and ended horrible! Please, speak your mind....let your husband know how bad it looks ans is!
2006-11-29 16:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not normal at age 15. You need to talk to your son to find out if there has been any inappropriate touching going on. And you definitely need to talk to your husband. The kissing is acceptable in some foreign cultures but not in the US.
2006-11-29 16:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How the hell do you put a 15yo on his lap? Is your step son a midget?
2006-11-29 16:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no this not "ok". his behavior is more than bizzare its downright WRONG, its questions like this that i wish we could "chat" i want to know how his son acts when his father does this? i mean maybe there is underlying abuse and the poor boy doesnt know any different. you need to talk to your stepson find out if he feels "ok" with this and more than anything tell your husband his behavior isnt normal NOONE thinks it is at least tell him that. good luck im afraid of what you may find out.
2006-11-29 17:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm.. no that is not OK that is soooo creepy. you definitely need to put a stop to that. your husband has problems. My father has never kissed me on the lips and I would be very creeped out if he tryed.
2006-11-29 16:45:58 · answer #11 · answered by krystal s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋