I have a problem. I''m smart. nice, and pretty BUt I also don't do something that most people engage in. I'm a virgin who is saving sex for marriage. As we know, this can he hard when dating. Most guys want a girl who will put out. I dated this guy for a month, he was really sweet, caring and I told him from the beginning my views on sex and he said he was fine with it and culd wait. After a month he said "he was busy". I really liked him. Why is sex so important? I'm not gonna ruin my virtue just so some guy can get pleasure but it's hard to mneet guys who wil wait. Guys would you wait for a virgin girl? AND what would you think of a 21 yr old girl who is a virgin?
2006-11-29 16:34:17 · 17 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, I admire your point of view on this polemic issue. I wish all girls were like you. Don't you let yourself be influenced by these nasty people. There ain't nothing wrong with being a 21 year old virgin. Save the best for the one who is willing to sacrifice time, hardships and feelings with you ok??? Keep it up!!!
Congratulations!!!
2006-11-29 16:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by ramz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, don't give in because you've met a guy who can not respect your belief. The world is not cool. They have AIDS, tons of other V.D.s, divorce, unwanted pregnancy, cervical cancer, and other emotional distress due to sex sex sex. Yes, it is one of the most wonderful thing one can ever experience, but you don't have to give it up right away. Listen to the complains and problems in here, a lot of these girls will put out yet they have the same problem as what you're stating. Whey you find the guy who would wait, then you know who an when to to give it to.
2006-11-30 00:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a guy.
I respect that.
You should wait til marriage.
The thing is I hope the guy doesnt marry you to have sex with you. Sex is an intamacy thing between humans to show compassion. Happens in relationsships. Although sex as turned into more of a sport for people nowadays. I hope you can find Mr. right.
Good luck on keeping your virginity.
2006-11-30 00:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by d2poolplaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to find a guy who is also a virgin but I would assume all the quality guys would be deflowered by 21. As a guy you do not realize what you are missing if you have not had it yet. After you lose your virginity it seems like your sex drive triples and I do not see many guys getting into a multiple-year non-sex relationship and considering it "serious".
2006-11-30 00:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by a.nomaly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are truly waiting till you are married, then that is great but you need to be up front with all the guys you meet. That way you get the creeks out of the way. There are guys out there that will understand your situation, and will find other ways tho satisfy their need for sex, but you will have to be OK by the means that they go about doing that. The best way for you to cope about the delema of having a boy friend is that you need to surround yourself with friends and not concentrate on a one on one relationship with a person who will be looking for that one thing. Lets face it, most men are sexually active by age 17, in one form or another.
2006-11-30 00:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by marco tolento 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lose interest after a couple of weeks.
There must be a reason for this abstainance, and I would put it down to some religious mind control. It's not how natural, free-willed people behave. Marriage isn't even natural. It's a man made idea, to enable governments and religions to have more ciontrol over your affairs. I'm not promoting promiscuity, but I do know that sexual incompatability has ended many relationships, and it's important to remove that obstacle long before committing to a long term relationship.
2006-11-30 00:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think there will be many guy out there willing to wai anymore. sex isnt a bad thing, and saving it from marriage isnt goin to help you get to heaven. guys need to feel that physical intimacy in a relationship and a great deal of women do too. doesnt mean you should give it up, but losing it wont change you or the way people see you. think of it this way, before you commit and spend the rest of your life with someone, dont you want to make sure you are compatible with them on every level, including sex? and also, after you lose it when your married wouldnt you wonder what it would be like with someone else? that curiosity may make you cheat. just a thought.
2006-11-30 00:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a similar experience with my last girlfriend. I was fine with waiting and it was hard as we were both very attracted to one another. We ended up sleeping together and it has cost me the relationship with her. if I could go back I would have handled it differently only because then I might still have her in my life. Its a good thing to wait and if he cannot respect your choice than you are most likely better off anyway.
-NmD!
2006-11-30 00:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u just try going out with someone who shares those same views? There are heaps of guys who want to wait till marriage or wouldnt mind dating a virgin. relax and stop stressing over it. Not everyone will like you. you cant win them all.
2006-11-30 00:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by niki s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a virgin myself at 22, Its the hardest thing to find a virgin girl. I believe that if theres a will theres a way. I think that you should just ignore the idiots and dont worry, you'll find some one who will appreciate what your doing.
2006-11-30 00:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Braden M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋