I've been living here for about four months already. This city is known to have very friendly and socialing people. I've met and talk to at least 15 girls. I've emailed 8 of them. They all either doesn't reply my email or alway make up excuse about why they can't do anything or whatever.
They also seems to avoid me like plague if they know who I'm. Other thing that I don't get is almost everyday I would go to one of two coffee place after training. At those place people are very socialing and strike up consveration with pretty much anybody of any age or class. I know I look damn good (I got lot favors by my looks lone) have great taste in fashion, accomplish a lot in life, can carry out intelligent consveration, rarely judge anyone before I know them, and I'm quite approachable. Every night two or three girls would try to start consveration with me. However the moment I gesture them I'm deaf and take out paper and pen, they apologize then leave.
I've been holding my head up high
2006-11-29 16:22:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but gee after four months, it's starting to really making my morale go down fast.
What really irriate me most is when I was oversea in Europe, I can write and read few other lanaguage a bit. I have absolutely no trouble with start a consveration with anyone at all. Only one person shy away from me.
This doesn't make any sense at all. What's up with this?
2006-11-29 16:24:11 · update #1
My hearing recently got damaged and I hear pretty badly now and I have noticed how some people just are not ready to make an extra effort when it comes to communication. A lot of people refuse to speak a little louder for me or look at me while talking or repeat what I didn't hear. They'd rather skip talking to me altogether. I can imagine that your problem must be even bigger, being completely deaf and needing a bit more effort than that in order to communicate. But let me tell you something. People who are not willing to put in the extra effort to communicate with you and get to know you are simply not worth it, you deserve someone better than that. You deserve someone who is willing to give it a try. One day that person will come your way and I think the wait will be worth it. I know it's not nice to experience all that rejection for being deaf, but I'm afraid this is what we'll have to live with. So let's look on the bright side, at least we'll be spending our time with the right people instead of fakes or people who don't really care.
Good luck finding the right girl. :) Don't give up.
2006-11-30 23:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People, generally speaking, have a difficult time with someone who has a disability. I have a severe speech problem. Someone Could think that I'm retarded, because of the way I speak. But I am not retarded. Have gone to college, had and have a job, drive a car, computer, dog, married, baby, long trips alone for days. Needless to say-certainly NOT retarded. But most people- want things the easy way- talking, laughing, walking.. The people who are most compassionate are probably the ones with family members with serious conditions, care givers and professionals in those fields. Many people, are ignornant and just make fun at your expense. These people don't deserve me as a friend, but one of them could be a boss!
2006-11-30 00:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
awwww how horrible..................i am sorry. You sound like a very nice guy, and i am sorry girls would do such a thing to u. But listen i am a girl and let me tell u, girls can be very stupid sometimes, and we don't realize that by some of our actions we can hurt a guy very badly.
So i apologize for all the stupid girls that wlaked away after they found our that you are deaf..................................but just keep your head high and keep smiling, cause u never know who is falling in love with your smile.
p.s someday u will find the perfect girl :))) i promise...........
and remember to smile more often :))
2006-11-30 00:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by I smile when I feel like crying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nine: You do not have the problem - THEY DO !!! Their problem is that you are a trophy to them [girls], once they snare you and find out you are deaf, they shy away . These girls can't see beyond their vanity and you really, don't want to have a girl in your life, who wants you only for her ego, to show you off to other girls. Be glad that you have this issue with being "deaf" because you "hear" things in the behavior of the girls who shy away from you. Personally; I wouldn't want a girl in my life, who only wants me for what I look like and not for who I AM as a person ! Be patient, you are going to meet a real beauty one day ... it's worth the wait - believe me !!!
2006-11-30 00:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
those girls are pointless bit*ches, they are the type does not want to go out with people abnormal or different from the common. If you have girls walking away from you because you are deaf, those girls are dumb and fakes. If one girl actually decides to write to you and stuff, you got yourself a true friend or even a gf. Go out with those who are willing to accept you.
2006-11-30 00:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically because learning how to communicate with you would be like learning another language and who really wants that responsibility. Not to sound callus, but really, that's quite a commitment. Network with some deaf friends because the average girl won't be willing to make a commitment to learn a second language. I have three friends who know how to sign. Ones a guy, who's married to the other girl, and the third is a lesbian...sorry dude.
2006-11-30 00:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
They run away before they learn who you really are! They are scared and just dont know how to be or act around you once they figure it out.
The only people that are losing out is them because they haven't got enough balls to stick around and get to know you :o)
You don't want to know those kind of superficial people anyway!
2006-11-30 00:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are intimidated, and girls might not know how to deal with that kind of situation. That's really too bad though - their loss I suppose if they're backing out before getting to know you.
2006-11-30 00:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by silllyfox 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
seriously you sound like an awesome catch..you have to realize that people in this world are ignorant....ive encountered many people like that who just brush off things they dont understand...also i believe that for everyone one person there is someone out there..you just have to wait and see who yours is...dont let these ignorant people get to you.
2006-11-30 00:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its more than likely because they are just ignorant and scared of what they dont understand....dont worry hunny...it will get better...it always does...i wish u the best...
2006-11-30 00:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mama Meg 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋