Okay I can totally understand why people would hate me for this but I came on here for answers, not insults. There's this kid that sits behind me in english and I HATE him, he's annoying, he's always poking me, he has that nazely voice, and he always comments on everything the teacher says, everything! He just thinks he's so funny, like if the teacher says "Have a nice weekend, stay out of trouble" he always says "well I can't make any promises" grrrrr! Now he keeps flirting with me, but he's one of those people who act mean and annoying to people when they like them. The thing is he has one leg that is skinnier and smaller than the other one, he wears a brace and special shoes. What do I do when he asks me out? Cuz not only am I not interested, I can't stand him! I wanna slap him that's how much he annoys me, but since he has a disabiltity that apparently makes me some sort of "monster". Well I can't help it okay? Just tell me what I should do then throw the rotten tomatoes!
2006-11-29 16:21:14 · 25 answers · asked by StarGirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well, if he does, just say you're not interested. don't be rude though! treat others the way you would want to be treated, cripple or not! you could just tell him to stop making those weird comments too. good luck.
2006-11-29 16:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by stitchfan85 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Have some compassion. This poor kid with the leg brace is probably teased all of the time. He sounds nice enough to me. Ask your teacher if you can move seats. IF the teacher says no then just keep quietly seething and do not be rude to this boy. Cripple or not hes probably flirting with you because you are nice to him, good job so far. Just dont be mean because it can be crushing on someone like that. What is rong with being a friend? What are you so scared of? Its kind of harsh to hate someone because they say annoying things and have a leg brace. Dont be such a stuck up snob.
2006-11-30 12:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just act towards him as you would any guy. Having a disability is not permission to behave badly. This is another example of political correctness run wild.
I worked at a rehab facility for years and some of the spinal cord patients were terrible that way. They would have the young tenderhearted staff in tears. One man I flat out asked "Why are you being such a dick?" His reply was that it amused him to see how much abuse people would take because he's a "cripple".
Tell this guy you don't find his little remarks funny and don't hesitate to refuse a date. If he dares to bring up "you don't like me because of my disability", a good reply would be "oh, there's a mental handicap that turns you into a jerk?".
2006-11-30 04:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by barbara 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him flat out that "you're not interested" and move on. If he can't handle rejection that's his problem not yours. Don't feel any guilt for it because handicapped people can be assholes just the same as able bodied folks can. Being disabled does not give anyone cart blanche to act like he does for any reason. I have no grudge against you and I am the son of a paraplegic.
Too many disabled people use their problems to guilt trip people into feeling sorry for them. Let him learn that it ain't gonna work on you. An education like that may very well be the best thing to happen for him. For all you armchair diasbaled advocates out there equal rights also means equal punishment, you can't have it both ways.
2006-11-30 03:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell the teacher he is harassing and annoying you in class and you cannot pay attention and ask to be moved from your current seat. A clever teacher would initiate a revolving seating chart so everyone in the class got to change seats once a month and he could annoy one person at a time.
He probably has a difficult time of it with other classmates and maybe he thinks you are nice and he wants to know you better.
The truth sometimes helps. If the teacher will not help you then perhaps you could talk to him privately and tell him that his antics are ruining the class for you and you wish he would calm down.
2006-11-30 00:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do try to be nice. I realize that it's difficult...there's a girl after me in my school who I don't like. Just try to get along. Always be polite but also be clear that you are not interested in dating him. Perhaps you could blame your parents if they are a factor in who you date. Some people also just have a different sense of humor than others. I tend to laugh at totally different things than most of my classmates and am often the only one. Oh well. The only thing I can say is to keep trying to be polite and hopefully it'll work out.
2006-11-30 00:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by beethovens_sixth 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should let him have it. The b*st*ard has gotten away w/ being an annoying pain in the butt his whole life because of his disability. Tell him to his face that you don't care if he is disabled - it has nothing to do with his mind and how it functions - just tell him off. You don't have to be nice about it because he's a cripple. Don't insult the disability though - just his behavior. Go ahead and give me a thumbs down, you weenies, I don't care.
2006-11-30 10:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he asks you out, turn him down. 'Sorry, I'm not interested' will work fine. If people ask you to explain yourself, you can either say it's none of their business or tell the truth: 'Not only do I NOT find him attractive, but I actually find him irritating.' There is no need to mention his handicap, especially since you insist that it doesn't factor into your opinion of him.
(Of course, seeing as you started your question with 'annoying cripple' rather than 'annoying person' or 'annoying boy' or 'annoying idiot', I think you are lying to yourself when you pretend that factor isn't at the forefront of your opinion.)
2006-11-30 00:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by sueflower 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
maybe not, he might do something to make you be badly embarrassed, or something new to annoy you about,he's using his "disability" as an advantage, so he can annoy you and HE thinks you can't do anything about it, but maybe you can, maybe you could do something small like tell the teacher, or do something that'd embarrass him, or go deeper and have revenge and make him miserable somehow, he's still a human, disabilities don't make people be inhuman, but keep in mind, if you do the right thing he had it coming, if you do something bad though, you'll have something coming to you too.
2006-11-30 00:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sephiroth 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it's fine that you hate a cripple; it's absolutely normal. Well Done on making your point of view known.
About Him:
Out of nescessity he had to develop a personality that was bigger than him. That's why he's such an assh0le.
What you should do if he asks you out:
Simply say "no thanks". Don't say it with any emotion whatsoever. Say it as plainly as you can, looking him directly in the eye.
If he asks why not, say "I don't want to go out with you". again, say it as blankly as you can whilst looking him directly in the eye.
Talking as plainly as possible (not lazily) whilst looking him directly in the eye is very important. Is shows complete honesty, without allowing the assumption that any 'feelings' affected your descision.
What you should do if he keeps bothering you in class:
1)Talk to him in private and tell him to stop it.
2)Ask a friend to switch seats with you. Prefrably one who is sympathetic towards him.
3)Talk to your teacher, and have her re-assign the class seating plan.
4)Finally talk to yuor parents and tell them that the cripple is affecting your ability to learn in class. They can talk to yuor teacher and you will be moved.
Good Luck.
2006-11-30 00:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by rishi_is_awake 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
These issues frustrate me. Again...what difference does it make what race, height, disability, (cripple as you put it) a person is? Focus on the person, their interest, heart, humor etc. Base your interest / feelings on that. A person being "cripple" doesn't even factor in here. You find him annoying...don't encourage his interest in you based on that alone. The 'crippling' that I wouldn't like is a mean mind or heart. And, if he is using the 'cripple' issue as a 'pity me, date me' card...he has his owning heart and mind growing to do. You don't like him...don't date him...end of story. Talk to him same as you would any other.
2006-11-30 00:30:46 · answer #11 · answered by onelight 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋