How to stop being jealous with my boyfriend?Im so jealous when my boyfriend is with his friends or without me?

Question

Weve been together 7 months, and our first month together he cheated on me and kissed a girl at a club...but he ended up calling me right away and telling me about it. He told how sorry he was and how he couldnt believe he let something like that happened. Well after that, I ended up cheating on him with 2 other guys and my ex boyfriend! I know 2 wrongs wont make it right...but I was just sooo mad I want to get back at him 3 times worst. Well he ended up forgiving me all those times. This was a long time ago though, and like I said weve already been together 7 months and everything has been peachy. But the thing is, he lives with a guy roomate, and they always have people there. The roomate has a girlfriends too, and sometimes she brings her girlfriends and when I call him at home he says hes in his room and not hanging out with them. Ok.sorry for such a long story, but my point is, is how to get over this jelousey..or will I ever get over it, because of what he did to me a while back

Answer 1

i think you guys are going downhill. that's more than jealousy that's neglect and just immaturity. he still wants to be on the hunt and check out other girls' asses and see their flirty lips and hips and ****.

give him the what-now and move on if you can. can you? or do you like abuse.

oh hey, why don't you just show up sometimes. he is your man, can't you just go over? if he can't handle that, then he plain can't handle you.

Answer 2

Let's see your boyfriend kissed a girl and a nightclub…. and you say he cheated on you….. I'm not sure that kissing a girl tonight club jumps to cheating… maybe a little suspicious but. Your revenge was to sleep with two guys… and your boyfriend…. okay that's three guys. That's a lot of banging for one guess. Let's face it you didn't get even you slaughtered the guy.

I mean I can even think if he had told you he hugged the girl also…. you probably would've been at an army camp saying…. Boys, I got something for you.

And then he forgive you…. you should kiss the ground he walks on for forgiving you.

You're asking how you get over your jealousy…. I'm wondering how he's not incredibly jealous. I mean whatever he's got you need to bottle it and sell it The dude is a rock !!

Jealousy will eat anybody alive. Unfortunately is based on typically speculation and fantasies about what might happen or could've happened. I mean you're even saying you're jealous when your boyfriend is without you. So you're being completely consumed.

This is obviously an issue you need to come to grips with. Maybe get a couple of books that concentrate on overcoming jealousy. Sure there's plenty on Amazon. Try to follow their guidelines and get over it.

I used to be jealous of my girlfriend… really bad…. of course I did not go and sleep with three guys to get even with her…. or even three women… but I had to finally come to grips with what I was doing. I was constantly worrying about where she was, what she was doing, etc…. Once I said to myself it doesn't matter what she does or whatever happens. I'll just cherish the time I'm with her. I did not set any level of trust or worry about what guys she talked to or what she did. I concentrated only on the time when we're together and put all my energy into that togetherness. You know what works I've never been a jealous person ever since

Mark
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Answer 3

Helen: What you are feeling is NOT jealousy but caution. He cheated on you once, already and you can't expect yourself to be trusting towards him since he violated your trust. Helen; if you are wise, take and dump this guy - he's a phony !!! I'll bet that there's more going on at his home than living with his room mate !! He's "double dipping" on you for sure. If you decide to stay with him, be prepared for a broken heart in the not too soon future. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Being jealous is normal, but too much of it is bad. Remember love requires trust. Or maybe she's just trying to make you jealous for you to do something that she wants you to do.

Answer 5

You are jealous because you do not trust him. Work on building the trust back then maybe your jealousy will tone down a bit. AND 7 months is not a long time!

Answer 6

you just need to put this in your head and remember it always: If its meant to be, it will be. If he/she cheats, it is not meant to be, and I will find someone better. You have to remember also, some of your jeliousy is coming from inside your own guilt from cheating on him. you have to forgive yourself and him completly to be able to get over it. And you have to remember, once again, if its meant to be, it will be. Dont use negitive energy stressing about what he might be doing. And if you find yourself alone, thinking about what he might be doing, find something to do during that time to occupy your mind and not think about it so much. good luck!

Answer 7

That happens ALL the time. I don't think it is possible to get over it. People are very possesive sometimes about precious things. You want your bf all for yourself. Why don't u live together?

Answer 8

Learn to love yourself. Once you truly love and respect yourself no one can ever make you jealous. If you love and respect yourself you realize that if someone loves and respects you they wont do anything on purpose to hurt you. If they do good rid-dens to them you don't need them

Answer 9

In order to solve this problem when he is home with his homie ask him if it is ok for you to come over if not then you got something to worry about.

Answer 10

well because of the past you feel that you can't leave him or else he'll cheat right so yeah I think that you should give him some air
I don't think he's cheating on you