nine year old boy cries often?

Question

My nine year old son cries often. He has always been a more sensitive person so this isn't a new thing. But, now since he is nine this is getting really embarrasing for him. He cries when he is startled, scared, hurt, feelings hurt, conflict, etc. I feel really bad for him. He cannot seem to turn his feelings off. This would be much easier for him to deal with but the society we live in doesn't accept this type of behavior for males. (sad but true) We do not have any major life events happening. AGAIN, he has always been this way. So I don't think it is any type of sign.
Any advice would be appreciated!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

My son is 11 now and he used to cry so much that my own teenagers would call him an cry baby or cissy. He didn't even care, he would just keep crying at the drop of a dime.

If he doesn't have a father or a father figure around, find him one that you trust and I mean really trust. Have them spend some time together, special time like going to the park, movies, store trips and other things that can be focused just on him. Usually when a child is that sensitive, there is a reason. Like the other person said, it could be an allergy or hormones or just a lack of attention.

I think for the most part, boys cry alot at age 9 and it will go on until 11 or 12, when they see other boys around them are not crying as much.

I know you said he has always been like that but you can't dismiss the possiblity of something possibly being wrong with him.

God Bless and Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

I don't know if most boys his age cry but it sounds to me that he is either very spoiled or looking for attention. I say leave him alone while he's having his temper tantrums. Once he's calmed down you can try talking to him and tell him that it's okay to talk about his feelings rather than become a drama king. Assure him that you are there for him but that you also do need some peace and quiet so you can study. It may take a while for him to mature but if you stick to it he will know that he can rely on his big sis. I feel sorry for you that your mother isn't trying to rectify the situation. It sounds like you don't have a very good relationship with her. Can your dad intervene?

Answer 4

You should try talking to your son and ask him is there anything bothering him, and why does he cry so often. maybe that will work, or maybe it's just a phase it may or may not. he's probably going through something that you don't know about or there is probably something that is causing him to act this way. Maybe it's something he ate or he's just having internal emotional problems. If talking to him doesn't help take him to therapy. He might not respond to that adult if he didn't respond to you, but try it's always better to try rather than not have done anything at all. Also pray ask God to help you. I hope you figure out what the problem is. Godbless

Answer 5

My nephew is like that. He has always seemed to be more sensetive than other children. I am not sure why, but he still cries and he is 13. He seems to be getting better, but we are not sure why he does that. I think if you are really worried about it, you should probably see your child's doctor about it. I hope everything works out for you. I know that when something your child does it different than others, it really bothers you. I have a 2 year old, who is really big for his age and people are constantly saying how fat he is and that I MUST be feeding him too much. They fail to reolize that everyone in my family is tall and big, he is a boy after all. But, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

Maybe you could read up on some techniques to help him control it (breathing, or thinking about something else..). Have you talked to his doctor about it? Only thing is, the Dr. might want to put him on meds for it...this is a tough one....it is sad that society can't just accept people for who they are, too bad your son can't pass off some feelings to the cold people in this world!!! I wish you and your son the best of luck!!!

Answer 7

"boys dont cry" is NOT true, since everyone needs to cry once in a while, but a boy (let's face it) cant cry all the time for the littest things.

sit him down and talk with him (maybe by his bedside before going to sleep) and teach him to control his emotions:
- be strong; do not take jokes that seriously... etc. depending on the situation

but then, he is a little boy... so do this gradually...

good luck! andd remember most boys ARE sensitive... its just that some are really good at hiding it.

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Answer 8

Omg hes still a kid he's only 9 years old so what let him cry ... all you can do as a mother is be there for him and hug him and kiss him and tell him everything is going to be alright ... that is the most important thing. Everyone who judges him because he crys alot can fu** off because he is only a small boy ... it's normal ... dont worry hunny ... just hug him and love him :) Hope this helps ... - Justin

Answer 9

Help him to handle his emotions, let him know while its okay to cry - that you understand he might be embaressed.

Things that help to prevent those tears from flowing:
Tilt the head down and move/look up. Can't really cry when your eyeballs are to your brows

Bite the inside of your cheek

Move your feet, swing em, tap em - distraction works wonders

Smile! Big cheesy grin is also helpful

Answer 10

how about counseling for him.....
does he have a father involved in his life? If not how about getting him involved in something like Big Brothers or encourage your male family members to be role models for him....