I allow other's actions to get me upset or mad. How does one just let things go. I want to be a more mellow person and not worry about stuff. Especially when people play games with me. Thanks for any advice.
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2006-11-29 15:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
After years and years of trying to figure people out I've finally given up because you just can't change the way someone else feels. You might be able to give them a nudge or hint in the direction you want them to go, but in the end it's their call. You can however change the way you feel about it. Think of what someone might gain by doing an action. Is that action/motive ok with you? Does it do harm? What are the rules involving that action? Is it acceptable? The person doing the action takes on the responsibility of performing it, if it's discipline or not they willingly accept the risks including what you might do.
2006-11-29 15:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by paxxy1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to live this way for a long time. Made some really bad decisions about work, relationships, friends. At some point you just have to say I'm on this earth for me...period. It may seem selfish, but you have to start thinking about yourself or you will be scrambling around trying to please everyone. That gets you nowhere. Make some priorities for yourself, finish school, get a better job, get a better bf, whatever. It takes effort on your part. Dont worry about hurting peoples feelings, your true friends and supporters will let you crap on them and still be there for you. And you should do the same for your true friends and family. Be there for the real people in your life and limit those to an amount you can really be there for.
If you know someone is playing a game with you, get out of the game. Noone is forcing you to do anything. Choose for yorself the people, friends, bf, workers you want to hang with and politely tell everyone who is giving you grief to beat it. Life is about you taking control of YOU. No one else will do it for you but you.
2006-11-29 16:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key is in your first two words..."I allow." No one can upset you without your permission. Have confidence in what you know and who you are - why is anyone's opinion more important than yours, anyway? If they know something you don't, then listen, think about it, and make your own decision. If they don't, then why care what they think? There are important things in life - people you love getting sick and dying, for instance - and everything else just isn't that big a deal. In 5 years you won't even know these people, anyway. You decide what has value, and you just need to trust yourself and realize that some people just aren't ever going to have a clue and it really doesn't matter because time changes everything. Big picture. Game players are just trying to convince themselves that they are stronger than someone else, but it only proves they have no confidence or character. Strong people don't need games to prove who and what they are. So, if someone's playing games, leave them behind. They are toxic vampires who desperately need you to make them feel important. THEY need YOU. You don't need them. They just waste your time and your heart.
2006-11-29 15:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by aneonvortex 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When your not under stress it's easy to distance yourself from other peoples comments. Stressful situations can easily bring out the monster in you. It's good to talk about it with someone or a psychologist.
2006-11-29 15:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way of not letting things irk you is to put things in perspective. If someone insults you intentionally, just tell yourself that the person probably has some MAJOR self esteem issues. That sort of thing, you know?
2006-11-29 15:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you have free will everything you do in your life are from choices you have made weather there good,bad, etc.so today is a new day you can choose to enjoy it or not just like the people that come and go out of our lives the point is choose your happiness in your heart not by other people, places or things! you have one life to live start living it today! take care
2006-11-29 15:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by ms. clean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't remember who said this, but it worked wonders for my stress level. Ask yourself if what's bothering you will still be important in 5 years. The answer is usually no, meaning it's really no big deal, who cares? Then forget about it. If it's family, I feel for you because there's no avoiding mom LOL. Good luck and I hope you find your inner peace!
2006-11-29 15:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by bigclaire 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
de@r be@utY, it really is organic. We being people do all stupid stuff. All human beings enable stupid and stupid issues to annoy all of them the time. Its area of existence. If their might want to be no stupidity in existence, then there might want to be no exciting, humor, journey and besides entertainment in existence. If human beings enable stupid stuff happening to them, then later they could snicker out at their personal stupidity. human beings enable stupid issues to annoy them yet after sometime they even ignore it also. it is going to later be remembered as a joke and not in any respect something else. So purely kick back and make existence basic... that is it... :) ....tc...sweet dreamz...bye.... ***** dO wh@tEvEr uR hE@rT $@yZ....*****.
2016-10-07 23:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when im down i look at the sky and the trees and things i think are beautiful
then i just think about the good things in my life like family/friends and health and everything is fine
2006-11-29 15:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by luke c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋