he doesnt pay child support. he works and has a girlfriend and is a drug abuser. i will be moving soon with my bf in another city. and we have talked about marriage. we have also talked about my by adopting my daughter. if everything works out, i think that would make me the happiest person. what are my chances of my bf adopting my daughter in the future? without the biological fathers consent? and what is your opinion on this? Keep in mind, the father was very abusive with me, and I have plenty of records to prove it. Plus, i had a protective order on him for 2 years when i left him. it was crazy.
2006-11-29 15:24:01 · 8 answers · asked by Olga 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him he can give up his rights to her or pay through the nose. Advise him that if you took him to court it will always be in her best interest and therefore since he doesnt have her best interest at heart being he is doing what he is doing to let her go. Then he can go to hell. If he decides to go the other route take him to court he has no right to not pay for a child he brought into this world. And the courts look at it the same way.
2006-11-29 15:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think considering the Father (sperm donor) doesn't have anything to do with the child and doesn't do his part in raising her and seeing to her needs it would be great if you get married and your new hubby wants to adopt her. I'm not so sure that what he did to you will have anything to do with the adoption though, depends on the state. Also depending on the state you might not need his consent. In some states so long as he isn't paying support and has no bond with her he has no legal ties. When the time comes I'd find a good attorney. Good Luck.
2006-11-29 15:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your bf is not going to be able to adopt her if her father does not relinquish his rights. I understand about him being abusive to you but that really has nothing to do with him being a father to your daughter. Why have you not taken out child support on him? Since you can't forcefully make him turn over his rights, you might as well get him in the system (as far as child support goes).
2006-11-29 15:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd have to find out more about the legal end of it, but I say, if you can do it, go for it. Although, I would caution you to make sure your daughter knows she has a biological father out there somewhere and why you're not together. You don't want to trash talk him - just give the info to her gently. Let her know you love her and that your bf loves her. Then if she decides later she wants to meet up with her father, don't feel hurt or jealous....it's natural for her to be curious.
2006-11-29 15:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sue B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will depend on the state guidelines you move to. My daughter had her husband adopt my granddaughter at age 3 because of many same reasons. In the state of which we lived they were guided in what they had to do. They had to run this in three local papers 3 times of which he would be able to see. There was a time frame and if he did not contest the adoption was final. In this case it was final. Good luck!
2006-11-29 15:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you're in basic terms a sturdy father. My dad did no longer hesitate to touch me, I kissed him and hugged him daily, even up until the day I went to college. i do no longer understand if it is only that my dad and that i are close, yet you sound the precisely comparable to my father. i replaced into thoroughly delicate with him, and nevertheless am. you come from a sturdy place, and that i think of you sound like a impressive father. forget approximately approximately this guy at artwork, he would not understand what he's speaking approximately, he of course would not understand what it is opt to also have a daughter.
2016-10-13 10:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by arleta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering he wont pay child which he can go to jail for, he dont want to make any contact with her, and the past in your life because of him. I believe they shall let him adopt her if his record is clean. To further assist you, you should try calling your local social services office and asking them what can be done. Hope this gets you started to a better life for you and your daughter.
2006-11-29 15:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind I do not know your full situation. You can either try to ask him to give up his parental rights, or just serve him papers. Your local children's advocacy center can help you with the paper work. Be sure you do not try to push your BF onto your child...kids know. The main thing I would like to stress to you however is this:
IT IS ABOUT YOUR CHILD'S HAPPINESS...NOT YOURS!!!
2006-11-29 15:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by lynette g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋