I recently was pregnant, but it didn't work out. I feel so empty without my baby. I was wondering if I should try to have another baby to fill that whole in my heart? Or should I give myslef sometime to get emotionally ready?
2006-11-29 15:17:01 · 21 answers · asked by songbirdz03 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just make sure i has been more than 3 months for babies health as well as yours, also make sure you do not want to replace. It may sound weired but the way I was able to heal from my misscarriage was to immagine my great grandmother in heaven rocking my baby, when the thpught came to me I immediatly knew my baby was in a good place, my pastor also included a small memorial to our baby in the Sunday service. We conceved our daughter 3 and a half months later she is now four. I was very thankfull I concieved when I did, when my 1st babys due date came around we had a memory day of what should have been his/her birthday but we were already expecting our daughter which made it easier. I know if I would have had the 1st I could not have my daughter . We think about the baby we lost every mow & then (2 babies now keep me busy) but we are always reassured that he/she is in heaven surrounded by our loving family, with no hurt or pain of this world. We also take comfort knowing someday at the end of our journey we will meet.
2006-11-29 15:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you are ready PHYSICALLY. You may not feel it but your body has just gone through a lot and it takes about 6-12 months for it to fully heal and balance out (hormone wise). Give your self sometime to grieve. It's ok to be hurting right now. I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage too. Really, my advice is wait. Once your mind and body is ready, go for it. You will be glad you refreshed your health for the sake of you next child. I had my next baby too soon (only 2-3 months after the lose) and I had complications during my next one. I almost lost him as well. I wouldn't do that again.
I'm sorry for what happened though and best of luck!
2006-11-30 00:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by down2earthsmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when the time is right. Take a minute look at your life. Everything happens for a reason no matter how sad or grand. Having a baby is ahuge responsibility and although wonderful burdensome at times. Make sure you have everything in line so your child comes into a stable life and you can provide the most benificial enviroment possible. The worst thing you can do is bring a baby into a troublesome enviroment and it will only make things harder. What ever you decide good luck and god bless. From a single dad of four.
2006-11-29 23:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by NICK C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so very sorry about your loss, there is no greater pain than the loss of a child, however, as natural as it is to want another baby right away, to fill that emptiness, you should wait and give yourself and your body time to heal. God bless honey, and good luck in the future.
2006-11-29 23:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you'll always have a place in your heart for the child you lost, but i would give yourself some time before getting pregnant again. you are still in an early stage of grieving and you should give yourself some time to come to terms with the loss of your child. like you said, you need time to get emotionally ready. how much time, only you will know what is right for you. i'm sorry for your loss.
2006-11-29 23:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give your self some time to get over the loss and then start trying again. Losing a baby is a hard thing to deal with and it is stressful. I have had to of them and i finally had a baby girl. So I know what you been going through. Sorry about that. Hope my advise helped you.
2006-11-29 23:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by dolphin26 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should give yourself at least 3 months. I had 3 early miscarriages before finally having my son and I got pregnant with him within a month after the 3rd one and then he was born almost 3 months early and we almost lost him. I recently lost a baby girl at 21 weeks and was told to wait 3 months but my husband and I are waiting 6 months - a year.
2006-11-29 23:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont have a baby to replace the one you lost thats not a good reason to have one.
first you need to come to terms with the loss of the first before you deside you are ready to love a new baby.
the baby you do have will deserve to have you love it for being itself. (not for giving you something to get your mind off the lost one)
besides your body will need the time to heal (it was stressed by the pregnacy just as if you had had the baby)
so just give your self time to heal mentaly and physicaly
and go see your doctor and talk about whats best for you and any new baby you may deside to have in the future.
2006-11-29 23:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by naightengale 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not saying that you are out of shape or eating wrong BUT preparing yourself to carry and deliever a baby prior to being pregnant is a big factor with the process. Start to do things you would be doing if you were pregnant; like walking and lots of vitamins...the healthier you are the better chance of becoming pregnant and carrying to tirm you are :) GOOD LUCK :D
2006-11-29 23:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your the only one who can honestly answer that.But i dont think getting pg so soon to replace another baby would be a good idea.You need to be physically ready as well as emotional ready.You dont want to make things worse,but it is up to you on what you decide.
2006-11-29 23:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋