What do you think of a guy who is still a virgin and is waiting until marriage to give it up to that special person? I'm 24 and this has always been a philosophy of mine for a long time, even though I have been tempted to engage in sex in previous realtionships.
Guys will give some stupid *** answer and not be serious about this topic, like say "i'm gay for not f****** a girl by now"
I need to know what women think about this situation since there are hardly any men my age who are virgins.
Honest answers will be appreciated =)
2006-11-29 15:10:47 · 40 answers · asked by JSAM 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And yes i HAVE KISSED someone. I've been in two previous relationships both lasting 2 years =P
2006-11-29 15:14:53 · update #1
I'm not even thinking about marriage. That's the LAST thing on my mind. I'm enitrely focused on my career and achieveing a Master's degeree.
2006-11-29 15:25:25 · update #2
My partner or wife does not need to be a virgin, but I hope she is. My choice being a virgin is for my own and I accept it. There is SO much more to building a valid relationship than just the physical aspect.
2006-11-29 15:31:50 · update #3
Personally I think that it is great. I would consider myself one special woman if I was the girl who eventually married you and is your first and only. Stay true to your heart and I promise it will all be worth it in the end. Hopefully the girl you find will have made the same committment to herself and you can experience something wonderful together because it is very wonderful with someone you truly love.
2006-11-29 15:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by jenny s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be a great thing! You are not that old at all to start being concerned. A good partner is a woman who also has that philosophy. Start looking in the right places, places a good person would like to hang out. Even a laundry, grocery store, church, seminars, there are good places all over the place especially these days. Coffee places or hangouts where people are just going there for a beverage and time to rest from work, etc. A clean language would help though. Good women are looking for kind, helpful, congenial men friends that are not looking for sex, but friendship primarily. The rest can follow if all other things in common match.
2006-11-29 15:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by desertflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you men like you are rare at the time I yielded into peer pressure and you know what if I could get it back but I digress to the point. You respect yourself and secure, nothings wrong with that. Any girl/guy that will start calling you gay is not worth it take it as a sign. I am 26 and met maybe a handful of men who didnt want some sex. You know your worth and when you meet that right person on your wedding night you will know Hope you can hold out and not yield to temptation or peer pressur. Good luck
2006-11-29 15:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very admirable of you to want to stay a virgin for that special person. However, although it sounds romantic, it's very idealistic. What if you find out that you are not sexually compatible? Then what?
Out of all the books I've read about relationships including the advice I get from relationship counselors, sexual compatibility is right up there with physical, emotional, financial and spiritual compatibility. I suggest you think twice about your sexual convictions if you want to be married to the same woman for the rest of your life. After all practice makes perfect. And you don't want to start practicing on your wedding night.
2006-11-29 15:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 20-yr old female, and I think it's great that you're saving yourself...obviously it's not common now in these days, but I think that's really sad. I think if you encounter a woman who gives you a hard time about it or something, they're really, really close-minded and immature. I think it should make the woman you decide to marry feel SO much more special and will look that much more forward to sharing such an experience with you on your wedding night...
2006-11-29 15:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Elli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You are one of kind....I think it is fantastic and would hope you find someone your age or older to meet marry who is also a virgin.....lots of young women myself included who marry young or have long lasting relationships throught their 20s end up in divorce because they think they missed something. But I warn you ....you must feel confident there is some sexual compatibility so everything but the real act should be explored with your soon to be wife when that comes about........I had pre marital sex and soon found out we were not compatible in the long run when the newness wears off....reality sets in, but honeslty kissing is the my tell tale with boys now ..........I have decided if they can't kiss well they cant do much else.....not that I have a lot of experience, but if she can't kiss ....I'd reevalutate!
2006-11-29 15:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are caught up in society's double standards: that it's okay for guys to have sex prior to marriage, but that girls should always preserve their virginity. Anyway, as for your question, do what you feel like it. End of the day, it is your wife's opinion that you should be concerned with. If you find someone who can make you feel comfortable with your virginity, then, you've found her. Otherwise, there are bound to be some of us who will agree with your stand and some of us who don't see it your way.
2006-11-29 15:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to save yourself for marriage. It prevents a whole lot of problems. I should know from personal experiences. I dont know what woman in their right mind wouldnt want a man thats a virgin, and when you do decide to settle down and get married you wouldnt want to have to tell your wife that you slept with previous girlfriends. To me virgins are attractive, and I respect the fact that they are virgins. I wish I woulda saved myself for marriage!
2006-11-29 15:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great. Really. I'm 20 years old and I am going to wait until I'm married. My main reason is due mostly to my religious beliefs, but it's beneficial to your physical and emotional health as well. There are so many cases of STDs and unwanted pregnancies and people just getting hurt. Waiting until after you are married is the best thing anyone could do. I have to say that I really respect you for that:-)
2006-11-29 15:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Aurora M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well.. i think you have a good point of waiting til marriage to engage in sex.. so u dont have to worry about not having sex right now.. i mean its not really a "requirement" in a relationship.. its just that people wanna do it to show love for their partner.. but i mean, u can show love in other ways..it just doenst revolve around sex. So if you wait til marriage.. that girl would feel really special because she knows that ur gonna give it to her because she's the "one" for you =)
2006-11-29 15:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ pErFeCt_LoVeR ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋