i am happily engaged to be married,but my husband is locked up for 25year(not settling 4 that) ,as he's away,my first love (ex man) contacts me and wants to get back with me we never broke up on bad terms it was just long distance relationship.i still love him and i wouldn't mind getting back with him but at the same time i'm in love with my fiance and i promised to wait on him,please help me what shouuld i do???????????
2006-11-29 15:06:10 · 31 answers · asked by Im Just Blessed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i believe that God has a great plan for my fiance and i he did survive 18 bullet shots and he is also my sons father
2006-11-29 15:27:44 · update #1
Oh dear....if you love your man, like you say you do, then you will forever be faithful to him. Nothing wrong with talking to this other guy. Just be careful. Do what your heart desires. Just be honest with him whatever you decide to do.
2006-11-29 15:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor.
First off you should have no trouble dumping a guy spending 25 years in prison. If you want to remain attached to a guy with a prison record you have some issues.
Secondly If you were in love, really in love the marrying and staying together for life kind of love you would only love one of these guys. I know a lot of people are going to disagree with me very loudly. Yes you can love more than one person at a time. BUT if you feel romantically attracted (romance not sex) to more than one person at a time it is infatuation not the real thing. When you meet the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with you will have no doubts, no real questions. You will know it! And it will be as natural as breathing
Thirdly, if you are hanging with the type of guy who lands in prison you really, really need new friends!
Keep in mind you have one life. One shot. If you get old and you regret ... well there are no do overs!
2006-11-29 23:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by raredawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing when your fiance returns after 25 years he is not going to be the same person!
prison changes people !
if you think you can live happily with this new guy then i suggest you should move on !
because 25 years is a loong time !
im sure its a rather delicate situation !! maybe you could talk to your fiance's parents about it !
also you got engaged to a guy who has commited a crime !
its obviously not a safe life !
leave him and move on !
tc
all the best
2006-11-29 23:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never make a promise you cant keep 25 years thats my age minus one I have been through so much in this time. When you made this promise did you seriously think about the future, your needs, how you will deal with his absence and here we are what if you fall in love with someone else. Crime has consequences and punishment and maybe this could be his punishment for his crime. Good luck
2006-11-29 23:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love them both, then just think of who makes you happier or whose style suits you more,...you know which guy is the one that you can see yourself in the future with children,...think about whether you're ready to get married,...or if you have to decide now which guy,...i mean sweety, this is a matter of life, so it's not about the teenage dreams anymore so think about the reality and try to give both a chance (whatever that might be) so that you'll be sure which one is better for you and so that you'll be happy with your future husband and your children and you can also devote yourself to them and make them happy too. So that you succeed in life. It is a complicated matter think it over and don't panick at all.!! It's all good. Nobody died.
2006-11-29 23:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by mazesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you prepared to wait for someone for 25 years basically putting yourself on the backburner. When someone you still have feelings for is in front of you. let alone who knows when your fiance gets out he wont go back in. I think this was a chance put before you to make a right choice. This is your decision so just think it through and follow your heart. good luck.
2006-11-29 23:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by andrewslovelywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better, twenty five years is too long to wait for someone.Move on, after being locked up for twenty five years he may not be the same man when he gets out, and then what do you have, take what happiness you can get elsewhere.
2006-11-29 23:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by brown.gloria@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a bad situation, but first calm down, I think you should consider getting back with. It's all up to you. It's no one else's choice. If he is still in jail when you are ready to move on, then move one even if it's a week or less. All that matters is your happiness. So do whatever makes you happy.
2006-11-29 23:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting 25 years? Is this correct? Uh-uh. Forget it. Find another man who won't keep you waiting for 25 years (whether it's your ex or someone else)! I'm sorry, but as much as I believe love is very important, your chance to exercise here on earth is fleeting. 25 years of not acting on your love for each other is not right.
2006-11-29 23:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by jaded1004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
25 years is a long time to wait for someone, just take it one day at a time but I would at least talk with the other guy, Do you think you can wait 25 years to get married to someone that you wont be able to see every day
2006-11-29 23:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by colvin0594 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by being locked up do you mean prison? if so, the moment he borke the law and lost 25 years with you was the moment he ended it with you. he cannot expect you to wait that long. if you are young, you life is over too. granted you may still love him, but even romeo and juliet couldnt survive under those circumstances. i would start hangin out with your ex again and see where that goes. remember, its your fiancee locked up, NOT YOU
2006-11-29 23:11:04 · answer #11 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋