Why is it that sex has become such a casual concept in ppl's minds. Sleeping with someone outside of marriage "used" to be considered wrong, but now it doesn't seem to affect anyone. Sometimes it feels that those of us who actually are saving our virginity for our husbands are in the minority now adays. (and fyi for everyone that reads this I'm only 20, so I'm not an old lady stating this stuff) Why is it that sex outside of marriage is okay now?
2006-11-29 14:55:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not ok to have sex outside of marriage. People want to be like everyone else so much, to fit in, so to speak that preserving, and respecting themselves falls by the way side. You stay strong and continue to save yourself for marriage...it's what God wants you to do.
2006-11-29 15:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by busymomof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago, someone came up with idea that sex was fun. This person also came up with the idea that sex felt good, Well this person was right on both accounts and it caught on like wildfire.
Everyone has different feelings about sex and its sacredness. Some feel as you do and others do not. I think when people sleep together, the issue at hand is more of how they feel about each other as opposed to if they are married or not. I think you would be hard pressed to find a husband who is still a virgin, although I know a few who are unhappy, constricted, and socially dysfunctional. For some people sex is very casual as they find it fun and it feels good. They do not feel that it is wrong or immoral.
I respect your feelings, convictions and understand what you are saying. There is one other aspect. I shudder to think what my wedding night would have been like if I didn't know whether my sexual chemistry was compatible with the woman I married.
2006-11-29 15:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the more important question: who was the one who say sacredness for sex should be complied with? Society enforce rules from time to time... It's not legally binding but there are social implications if you do not abide by it. In this respect, I would say a person could be guilt-laden if they have sex outside marriage. Sacredness for sex is protective of parties in the sense that it makes a person think twice before indulging in it. I feel that so long as the person is mature enough to handle it, so long as the person foresees the consequence, so long as the person is ready, it should be fine. After all, the concept of marriage is practically second nature these days.
2006-11-29 15:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-09 23:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked a very complicated question that has no answer.
If you believe that having sex before marriage is wrong then nobody can tell you that you are wrong. If that's what you believe then that is what you believe.
Personally, I do not believe that having sex before marriage is wrong. Quite the contrary, actually. Sex is a very important part of marriage. Better to find out before you are married that your partner and you are sexually incompatible. Strange as it may seem that's possible! It is incorrect to assume that any two people, male and female, paired together will enjoy having sex with each other. I personally would argue that it is important to have sex with several partners before marriage to help determine what you need, sexually, to enjoy a healthy marriage.
But in short, it is wrong for others to judge you for "saving yourself." That's your right. But understand that you are also wrong for judging others and saying that they "don't have respect for sex." Don't push your ideas and beliefs on others, and scold them if they do the same to you.
2006-11-29 15:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Crockeruha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason that sex has become such a casual concept should be obvious- look around you- look on the TV everything we see screams sex. People can't complain that the world has become so obsessed with sex and no one treats it like they used to when the casualty of sex is shoved in people's faces day in and day out.
2006-11-29 18:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by carmen (I'm a girl dammit!) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea that sex outside of marriage is bad is based in religion. I am not religious so therefore, as long as people are responsible with contraception and it is with both parties' consent then I see nothing wrong with it. It's fine for you to want to save yourself but don't judge people whose beliefs differ from yours. Many people these days choose to have defacto (living together as a couple but not married) relationships - do you expect them to go their whole lives without sex and no children? These are the times - we have freedom of choice and we do what is right for us - not everyone else.
2006-11-29 15:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty sad and I don't agree with sex before marrage but right now there is a lo of crazy stuff going on in this world. Our attention needs to be on getting some kind of peace in these turbulant times and if and when that gets resolved we can focus on the other issues. Again, I DO agree with you but I just encourage you to not loose any sleep over it.
2006-11-29 15:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex outside marriage doesn't affect anyone but the couple themselves.Its because according to majority,virgin is like loser that nobody want to screw.But,being upon losing it,only then they will know they lose something that is valuable.
Being minority is fun,because you are rare.Need not to be angry or disspointed.What are you believing is right,just keep going
2006-11-29 15:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU.
I am also 20 yrs old and feel that sex has become as common as a handshake. All of my friends have had sex with all of their boyfriends, relationships that have lasted not more than a month.
Its not necessarily that its ok, but its accepted more since not everyone gets to the altar or even thinks about that nowadays.
2006-11-29 15:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Broken ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋