WITHOUT SAYING IT
2006-11-29 14:50:21 · 17 answers · asked by melanie a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have asked this question 6 times in the past two months. Only once your father was homeschooling you, once he was a bus driver, and once you were in the 7th grade with a teacher. Have you taken the advice of any other answer in the past 2 months or are you wanting to hear the same stuff over and over again? Once you said your teacher came right out and asked you, once you said your therapist asked you, several times you have wondered how to tell them without getting anyone in trouble...what do you want? If this is real than you should obviously tell your therapist and maybe mention to him/her that you ask about this over and over again and still can't take the advice.
2006-11-29 14:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Erika H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
melanie: I take it that you are referring to sexual abuse. Your father has isolated you from the school system where he can have his way with you. Draw a picture of how you feel and include your father in the picture too. Your therapist should pick up on this immediately. When she asks you if something is going on to make you feel this way, cry and tell her "yes". She is there to help you be protected from your father's sexual advances (abuse) ! I really feel sorry for you melanie, and hope you tell on your dad to get him to stop doing this to you. You will be happy when he gets caught and won't have put up with it anymore. Good luck "mel" - you are very, very, precious to God !!!
2006-11-29 15:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard but good question.
You need to be able to tell someone,the sooner the better so the abuse can stop.
Then you can get the assistance that you need and maybe they can help your dad too.
You say you don't want to say anything......
1.how about telling the doctor you have a friend that you are worried about she is your age and she told you that her father was doing this to her....hear what your Therapist has to say...maybe this will make it easier for you to tell him
or
2. write a letter to your Therapist telling him That you are aware of a situation happening between list your name and your fathers and you are concerned about .....your name here your well being. You are aware that ......your name here...is seeing you for therapy could you please help her.
hoping this helps....you really need to see help..to protect yourself and to heal.
Best wishes
2006-11-29 16:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are giving your dad a fair shake.Maybe your just mad at him.Well either way you need to tell your therapist every thing that's on your mind,that's what they get that big fat pay check for.Also you need to have a talk with your dad.Come on he is you dad .He knows a lot more than you would ever be live.
2006-11-29 15:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by cjett63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have bruises, let them be seen. The therapist is bound by law to take action. If the bruises cannot be seen without undressing you have to tell them anyways.
EVERY PERSON DESERVES TO BE SAFE IN THEIR HOME.
You are 13 years old there is absolutely no excuse for this to be happening to you.
2006-11-29 14:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by jpbofohio 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i actually have a therapist too, and i think that if u dont go right out and tell him/her then you really cant stop what ur dad is doing becuse ur therapist wouldnt be able to prove that he abuses u w/o u telling her/him. u mite be weird telling them but thats why they are there, to help you, and obviously they cant do that if u dont tell her.
2006-11-29 14:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a very good therapist will know and can read in between the lines even if the patient won't tell a thing.
they can read your body language and your eyes.
2006-11-29 16:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid to say it. he cant harm you when you are with your theripist, and the theripist has to report any harm he/she sees. that would mean you could be away from that soon, and remember that he cant make you go, you choose to.
now, dont go tell lies....but if its true, let the theripust know.
2006-11-29 14:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by zachsfish 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHERE IS YOUR MOM? I TELL YOU WHAT, WHY DON'T YOU JUST SPEAK UP? MAYBE YOUR SCARED OF WHAT YOUR DAD MIGHT DO, IF YOU TELL OTHERS.BUT HEY, DO YOU HAVE ANY OTHER CHANCE? TELL YOUR THERAPIST ON WHAT'S HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE.BUT WAIT, WHY ARE YOU SEEING A THERAPIST IN THE FIRST PLACE? WHY AREN'T YOU STUDYING AT SCHOOL?
2006-11-29 15:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you need to tell some1 before it gets worse just lettign ur therapist know could be a start for u
2006-11-29 14:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by natasha g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋