How do you become confident in a godly way?

Question

I tend to be very needy at times and I always feel I need hugs and need to be reassured about things. I love to feel safe and secure which is one of the reason I love coming on yahoo answers and gettting and receving e-mails because I get a sense of belonging and security when I get my questions answered and forgive me for saying this but when I pray to God about my questions and concerns I do not always get an answer and I do read my Bible at least once a day and I pray to God and talk to God all the time, I just like gettting affirmation and like I said before security. My question is I have always wanted to be a lay counsellor and help people and encourage people with all I have been though. How can I be more confident so I dont ask so many questions on yahoo answers or lean on my family so much,
for support?

What are godly ways to stand on "my own two feet". I have been under a lot of stress and that is why maybe I have been "leaning" on others alot.

Answer 1

First of all, know that there is a God that will love you no matter how you look like, smell like, and even feel like. If at times you might feel down in the dumps, just remember that you are not an accident. God put you on this planet for a certain purpose. He loves you so much that He chose to make you. He didn't need to, but He chose to. He wants you to feel loved. God loves you and is there for you no matter how you feel. He promised to never leave us nor forsake us. Count on it. If you fully understand this truth, you will never again have to worry about feeling insignificant. Oh yeah, don't be afraid to ask questions. Someone said "He who asks questions is a fool for a minute. He who asks no questions is a fool for a lifetime." You need others and you need God. Don't expect answers from God right away. These are His three answers: yes, no, and wait. He knows what is best for you. Let Him speak to you through His Word. It is alive. It offers direction, fights temptation, guides and directs you. Read it. You will know God more.

Answer 2

First Who are you to say what a Godly way is!! 2nd What makes you think God wants you to stand on your own 2 feet? Everything is Gods Will and God's will will be done. You need to quit trying to stand on your own 2 feet and let God guide you in the direction he wants you to go. And everyone that's on yahoo answers is either on here because they have a question or like to answer others. Everone needs support from someone. Just be thankful that you have a family to lean on, some people don't have that.

Answer 3

Well first of all things I thank God for you and pray that this helps..... There are three ways that God talks to you (or so is taught by many congregations) The bible, circumstances, and other people. So when you ask people questions and they answer that is a way God talks to you (through them) To "stand on your own to feet" in the right way is to, yes think of it as that but know that your feet should be on God as a foundation. We as people need to realize that we are subordinates to God and that we need him for every fiber of our existance. God will allow you to be independent to an extent (either by letting you express your free will to choose or letting you do your own thing and falling on your face to realize your dependancy) but you need to not lean on others but allow God to be your foundation.

Answer 4

You sound like you have it all together. You can build confidence by doing a little at a time until you build up your confidence. When we do things for God we experience Him. Each time we experience Him we add to our faith in Him. It doesn't have to be big things, but we have to take an active part in serving Him. Oh, and one more thing, here's a hug. God bless you.

Answer 5

try going on a retreat. your church should have them every now and then. I'm going on soon, since I turn 19 in a month and my parents consider me to be old enough, and if I get even half of the experiences that my dad gets when he goes I'll be one of the strongest people around. Spiritual retreats can do that.

Answer 6

Read "The Five Languages of Love", forget who wrote it, but it will tell you that physical touch is your love language, and you don't get enough of it.

Other than that, I can't see you as a counselor, right now it seems you are very focused on yourself.

Answer 7

God does not exist. When I figured this out I felt empowered to find confidence in myself. But first I had to wake up.