I am up at college and today I got flowers at my apartment. They were a nice suprise because I was kind of having a crummy day when I got this pretty vase of flowers. Until I found out who they were from, my ex-boyfriend. We have been broken up for about 4 months, and it was mutual because I was moving away to go to school. I have not talked to him in a long time and the card says I am thinking of you, love. Am I reading too much into this? I am not wanting to get back into a relationship right now, and there was no occasion for sending me the flowers. I just don't want to hurt him because he is a great guy. I would appreciate any suggestions.
2006-11-29 14:33:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you two can still be friends..I am with my ex and just take it at that...be friends and do not read any more into it...guard you heart dear!
2006-11-29 14:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are powerful feelings on both ends here, He sends you flowers for no special reason other than to say he was thinking of you. He is a great guy. You guys broke up due to geography, but it seems that you never had any closure to your love affair. I imagine because it didn't feel right nor did you want to hurt him. I would like to think that he sent you flowers just because, and where there was no ulterior motive. You know him or if you are not sure why he sent them, you had better find out.
Write him a letter thanking him for the flowers and tell him it was very sweet of him to do (it was). Then, ask him in the letter the $64,000 question: "What were you thinking about me when you sent the flowers?"
He may still be burning a flame for you which is not entirely fair and while you have moved on, the question you have to ask yourself, is how far (not geographically) have you moved on.
2006-11-29 14:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't end the connection on bad terms then, to me (as a lady) that will be leaving it open to extra communications. If a number of mean matters had been tossed round then possibly it will be better to wait a bit earlier than doing something, but if your relationship simply ended since, to your ex, there was no more flame between you, then I suppose your flower idea can be excellent. Individually, if I was once in this situation, misplaced my flame for any person after dwelling with them, broke up and whatnot, but didn't have too unwell feelings about them, then plants would be a fine gesture to start matters over once more on a much slower %.
2016-08-09 23:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did not end the courting on undesirable words then, to me (as a lady) that is leaving it open to further communications. If an excellent type of advise issues were tossed round then possibly it should be extra valuable to attend somewhat in the previous doing something, yet when your courting basically ended because, on your ex, there replaced into no extra flame between you, then i imagine your flower theory should be good. in my opinion, if i replaced into in this example, lost my flame for someone after residing with them, broke up and whatnot, yet did no longer have too sick emotions about them, then plant life should be an outstanding gesture to initiate issues yet back on a a lot slower p.c...
2016-10-16 11:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view I honestly hate how some people are obsessed about breaking up, and moving on. I mean I then talk to those people who are obsessed about this idea, and I've found out they've been emotionally abused. This only leads to creating even more emotionally confused girls who then dump a guy, and then ignore him because their friends say so, and then that causes the guy to become a cold hearted man because some woman dumped him, and ignored him, and he can't figure out why. Then he meets new woman, and they can't figure out why he's so cold, and why he's stuck in the past all the time.
2016-05-17 12:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tooth4075 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply thank him for the flowers and then move the topic to friendlier waters. If he asks you to get back together give him an honest answer. It was his choice to send you the flowers, he knew where you were in the relationship. No guilt!!! Nothings changed.
2006-11-29 14:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by jesswonderin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a THANK YOU note,tell him school is good and you don't have time to be serious at this time.you really appreciate the flowers and talk to you later.
2006-11-29 14:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by hl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no harm he was just thinking about all the fun you guys had and sent flowers
2006-11-29 14:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah thats when they usually come back. Just remember there was a reason why you two broke up.
2006-11-29 14:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by jenny21gon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember this,
flowers say i'm sorry,
chocolates say I love you.
2006-11-29 14:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋