I have been working for seven months in a distribution center with a crew that is almost all male. My boyfriend is insanely jealous of the men I work with. I like my job and my coworkers. How do I get him to understand? I don't even go out with the crew after work on Friday anymore just to make him happy. I don't want to quit my job, but I want him to trust me. I've never given him a reason not to.
2006-11-29 14:32:45 · 13 answers · asked by pixie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either get a new boyfriend or lay it on the line for him.
2006-11-29 14:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is emotionally immature and needs to back-off on you. You are working at something which makes you happy. There is no real need for him to be so over protective with you. Love is built on trust ... no trust ... no love ! Usually with overly jealous guys there is anger, which oftentimes, turns to rage. You will be in for a huge "roller coaster" ride, emotionally with this guy as he uses jealousy as an excuse to justify his outbursts of anger towards you. (If he is this way now, can you ever, imagine being married to this hot head ?) Anger can be an effective means to control others with - if one chooses to allow it to. Life is too short to be wasting your time on a control freak ! Consider cutting this relationship short and moving on ... there are better guys out there, who would be more than happy to put up with you working where you are, in the distribution center. Good luck to you.
2006-11-29 14:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf needs either counseling of some sort or he needs to reacess the relationship. Without trust you have nothing! It's a job, job provides money, money for all kinds of things and ways of going out on your time off. He is either jealous or is guilty of cheating himself. Some people who are cheaters are the first ones to get jealous (hyper-critical) about the gender makeup of people their significant other works with. Best of luck to you. I would suggest a sit down serious talk. After all you like your job!
2006-11-29 14:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET OUT of there Girlfriend! Insanely jealous and controling men don't change. They just become more controling and abusive over time. If he's wanting you to actually QUIT YOUR JOB and lose your means of income and self-sufficiency because of HIS problems, then this is a red flag the size of China! Don't quit your job! But don't expect him to change either. Find a man who honors you rather than needing to control you!
2006-11-29 14:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have never given him a reason not to trust you...then he need to trust your judgement on this. He is your boyfriend...not your husband. And even then, you respect your partner and their decisions. You probably cannot make him understand. But beware of any man that is "insanely jealous."
2006-11-29 14:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a new boyfriend.....it starts with your job....then what else will he have to control later on?? Think hard about this guy. If he loves and trusts u, he should know that u have a woking relationship with these people, no matter what sex they are.
2006-11-29 14:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by its_me_cheeky_dee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your job = your money = your life. If you're happy with your job, then your BF has no choice. How does making you quit your job benefit your relationship? - it doesn't; it validates running away from problems. Let him know this, and if at all possible, maybe take him out with your co-workers on a Friday night just to show them how harmless and amiable they are. (**Note, if this suggestion spells disaster, then forget it!)
2006-11-29 14:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by jaded1004 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you are just one of the guys. I think hanging out with them after hours is the thing main reason he lost his trust with you. Yes, it sounds innocent but you do have to admit that it is making you excited being with them. And he can sense it.
2006-11-29 14:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit your boyfriend. Its your choice where you work, its not like you are at a strip joint. If he's like this about your job what will he tell you not to do next? Stand up to him and tell him if he really loves you he can trust you.
2006-11-29 14:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by tigersnw86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, tell him you like your job and u r not going to quit it just for him. stand your ground and tell him this. he sounds controlling and possessive. honestly dear, you need a new boyfriend. no man should tell you to quit your job because it makes him nervous.
2006-11-29 14:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋