Boyfriend addicted to video games?

Question

Boyfriend addicted to video games?
Ok so my boyfriend of nine years is on the computer non stop playing video games. He goes to work comes home and spends the rest of the night on the computer. I cant get ten minutes with him. When I try to talk to him he shushs me cause hes so into the game. I love him and I want to make this work but Im starting to feel really lonely and craving some sort of affection and Im afraid I will turn to someone else if I dont get the attention I need. I have tried to talk to him but he just blows it off like its not a big deal. I just feel like Im missing out when I see other couples together because he wont go anywhere with me. What can I do?

Answer 1

I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer. Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick. I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111. Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet. I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together. Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol

Answer 2

First off, hide the video games.
Secondly, you need to confront him about it. Without his video games, he has no choice but to listen.
Tell him that you feel completely neglected because he pays more attention to his games instead of his girlfriend.
Ask him which is more important - you or the games. Get a straight, honest answer. Don't settle for "I don't know." Because he DOES know.
Tell him he doesn't have to give them up completely, that's not what you're asking. You just want him to spend more time with you as a boyfriend.
If he gives you some excuse or doesn't even answer at all, I'd say it's time for a little seperation. Stay with friends or family members for a couple of weeks. He'll soon realise if he really wants his games over his girlfriend.
If you don't hear from him, you've got your answer, I'm afraid. :S

Answer 3

I sometimes find myself on the other end of this scenario, although I would never "shush" my wife. ;) I only play when my wife and kids go to bed as I do not want to interfere with my time with them. Here's what I would do...sit down with him and ask to play too. Once you have done that, then you have the leverage to ask him for some time with YOU. If he refuses, he is just being selfish and you should tell him the truth about how you feel! The more you make him feel guilty for playing games, the further you are pushing him away. I am willing to bet that if you show interest in what HE does, he might realize that you have things you like to do as well. If he can't see that then, perhaps you should break it off. It's not fair that you have to suffer if you are truly not happy. Good luck!

Answer 4

You might just consider breaking in on his attention span and say if I can't talk to you anymore then it's over ,,,, Do it as shockingly as you can ,,,, get his attention ,,,, If he still doesn't respond then make a big show of packing your things and moving out ,,,,See what happens ,,,, If this doesn't phase him then continue with your packing and find another place to live ,,,, You don't need this kind of crap ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting ,,,, Not what you are going through ,,,, If he prefers video games over you then so be it ,,,, There is allot of other fish in the pond ,,,,Go fishing and find some one that is fun to be with and will make you feel special ,,,, And don't look back either ,,,, Stick to your guns ,,,,

Answer 5

you had some really good points.
1. you have been with this guy for 9 years. he has not changed in 9 years. do you think this behavior is going to change now???? NO!!!
2. you are "starting" to feel lonely and craving some sort of affection. did it take you 9 years to "start" to feel lonely around this butt crack?
3 i will turn to someone else if i don't get the affection i need.
START TO TURN NOW. DO NOT WAIT ANOTHER 9 YEARS!!! HE WILL NOT CHANGE.
my daughter was married to one just like him. their kids are 17 and 18 now. the have been divorced for about 6 years and dad is still on the computer!!!

Answer 6

Next time he's playing video games stand beside the computer naked and say make love to me baby, I'll bet he won't be on the computer very long then, and if he is still on it after that then he's gay or something

Answer 7

I think it might be a good idea to try and slowly get yourself involved with his gaming. If you are both involved it will be easier to talk to him. Then it may be easier to take breaks and do something else.

Answer 8

just ask him can you have a friend that takes you places and spend time with you and talks with you and do fun things with you and make love to you and cares about you and understand you and if he ask you who it is tell him it use to be him but you need some one new good luck

Answer 9

either you brake up with him or talk about you braking up first, if the second doesn't work just do it. he's probably not worth it.