Tonight I was working on the computer and my 9 year old started jabbering on about a kid at school. I felt...?

Question

...I felt like curling up into a little ball. I could not handle this yammering. Is this normal?

Answer 1

Yes 9 will drive you nuts. i too have a 9 year old and any of my friends who have already been through this 9 year old business justs laughs at me cause they know all about it. Be patient, in a few yearsm she might not want you in her world at all!

Answer 2

Well..gvie yourself a break. We as Mommy's don't get NEAR enough "Me" time. A lot of us are Mommy's and work fulltime and then come home and try to take care of the house. So even though I try to be the best Mommy I can be..I still feel resentful sometiems when I want to tune out everything and be on the computer or watch TV or somethign and my sweet 5 yr old wants attention. But my wonderful husband helps remind me that there will be a time when my child won't even want to talk to me so I try to remember that and relish in this time. Maybe you could set aside time for your child where it's all about him and give him your undividied attention and then make sure he knows that at 7:00 p.m. Mom needs time on the computer (or whatever time works for you) and he needs to work on his homework or quietly read or something.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Normal 9 year old, just be patient, nod along and be greatful nothing bad happened. Take heart, some other kid in the class was probably jabbering on about your son to his/her parents. One day you might wish you had taped these things and exchanged tapes with the other parents to learn what your kids were really up to.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, but I feel a little differently... mainly because I did not have the relationship with my Mom I hoped for... she never listens to me period. I'll say something to her- just one thing, and it goes right by her... I'll later ask her something referring to what I had said, and she's like what? Your child could have had something important to tell you, and even if it's not, try to listen. Or they might end up feeling how I do- I can't talk to my mom about anything. I'm 24 with my own family, and still can't talk to her. She doesn't really talk to me at all... it's really sad for me.

That's just my opinion though. I know children talk a lot- I have a 13 month old son who is jabbering away, and I just love it. But your child has to have someone to come to talk to, so why not you?

Answer 5

You know it is normal to get all stressed out because you have to do this or that..or concentrate on reading this..whatever. But..you also have to think..he was likely at school all i day i presume..he hasn't seen you for much of the day..or the entire day..and he wants to share his day with you. His most important person in his world..you. What may seem trivial or silly to you..is a BIG deal to him..talking about his Friends..or school..or what is bothering him..all theses things..extremely important to him. You have to set priorities..and he is the most important one. Save your computer time for later..(maybe when he is in bed) and sit down and listen to him..share yourself with him. Even watch a program together. Just be there for him for a few hours at least. He needs that from you. And also..if you shut him out now..or give off the impression you do not want to listen to him..trust me..he will keep and remember that forever..

Answer 6

Yeah, if you are so busy with your computer, it kinda makes everyone wonder why you had a child in the first place!

One thing to remember though - if you ignore your computer to focus on the needs of your child, the computer will not be offended or hurt.

On the other hand, if you ignore your child and focus on the computer, then you are sending the message to your child that they are less important than the computer and that they are not important enough for you to interrupt your computer time to spend time with them.

When your child is in its teen years, he or she will probably stop talking to you altogether - and your complaint will be - my child never talks to me!

Maybe you should have got a cat 9 years ago instead of a child - they don't demand a lot of attention and you can put them outside in the yard in the evening if they start interrupting your computer time!

Answer 7

You have to set some limits for personal time for you. I have done this and it works. My wife has not and gets all mad when they know dad is vegging out and wants zero interference. She cant say No, I refuse to go mentally insane. Set some boundries and tell him you will be happy to listen to him after you get some alone or quiet time. And this isnt a form of abuse. It is good parenting and a way to stay sane. Believe me, I have 3 of them yapping all the time.

Answer 8

OMG! My little girl talks a mile a minute! Shes an only child and thinks that she has to fill up every second with her presence or voice. If I let her have that, I would have gone crazy a long time ago! We have to set some limits and establish alone time away from the children. Demand some time to yourself! You deserve it!

Answer 9

Yes, of course.

I learned when my children were 4 and 7 years old that I should not allow them to engulf all my time. I use to read 6, 7, 8 and sometimes 10 books to them everynight and this way before their bedtime. I was beginning to get overwhelmed, eventhough they were becoming very good readers. I was volunteering at my daughters school and her teacher asked me why I was so tired and I told her.

The children would have me read to them at night, in the morning before leaving for school and sometimes when they would just be getting home from school. They never let me go to the restroom alone, not even for a bath. I would have children sitting at my feet while using the restroom. She told me to stop them from taking my every breathe. She told me that I had to set perimeters around myself and let them know when their time was and when I needed time to myself.

I began limiting the books at night and stopped the reading in the morning. That was a bit crazy but they loved it and I loved to see them learn. Once I set rules, I was alot less stressed and they learned to play by themselves and with each other.

They even learned how to respect my own personal time and space. They now say, excuse me mom, and once I respond to them, they began to speak.

Now when my 11 year old comes in from school, wired up and rearing to go, I just redirect his attention to something else. After he has calmed down from his day and I have adjusted myself to pay attention to him, we come together to talk about our days and it is much calmer for us both.

He is older enough to understand that everyone needs space. As long as you explain it to him and give him his due attention, he will understand and appreciate you more.

God Bless you both.

Answer 10

I'm only shocked that this waited until the age of 9! Every day my daughter wakes up, she lists out all the dreams she had the night before, the majority of which i think are made up as she goes along! That's just how our day starts. From that time on, it's yak, yak, yak! Sometimes we have to have a little bit of quiet time and i send her to pick up her room. That gets her room cleaned and gives my ears a chance to rest. Sometimes I feel like my head could just explode! I tend to think that they have to get all their chatter out before they are teenagers and totally clam up and won't give us the time of day! Good luck!!!!