a messed up life?

Question

My mom and brither are always fighting and my mom and "stepfather" to. My stepdad cheated on my mom with about 3 diff wemen. My parents are divorced my nana died of cancer this summer. And my mom married my stepdad in june.. I'm tired of my messed up life and sick of hearing fighting. I just want to get away. how do i deal with this?

Answer 1

Relax and think about all the other things that's occuring around you. I'm sorry to hear about your family, I'm sure this is a hectic thing for you. How old are you? If you're a teenager, I definitely understand. Nothing has happened to me before but I can feel the tension, stress, and pain that you and other peers are feeling.
Release your inhibitions, do something else... Remember this, it's not your fault, it's their fault. Just forget them and put yourself in your own world. That's what really matters. I wish the best for your nana, sorry to hear that. I'm sure she's a great person and she definitely deserves her spot "up the staircase."

Best of luck<3

Answer 2

First of all I am so sorry that you have to be in the middle of all this disfunctional drama and for the loss of your nana. If I were in this situation, I would work, join clubs, spend time with positive friends. The more you surround yourself with positive things the better you are going to feel about yourself. I would also take time to excercise, it can be a great stress reliever and way to stay focused on all your goals. Take a walk in the fresh air (yeah it may sound gay) but it really helps ya think. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about that. Do you have family you can stay with for awhile until things quiet down? Maybe you can live with a aunt or something for awhile? If not, do what you can at home to block out the fighting...get headphones to your TV or stereo. Keep yourself distracted. That sounds like an awful situation. I'm sure things will get better. Good luck to you...

Answer 4

aww sweetie, it sounds like you have a lot of unwanted drama due to your crazy family. Believe you me, I can understand that. This is what you need to remember: Do not get pulled down by all this. Keep your head up and know that you have the strength to come up in your life. You don't have to have a life like theirs. This is what you need to do: You need to keep a journal and write all your feelings down, all of them. That will be your best friend. You need to believe that there is a God and you need to talk to him/her, whatever you can see as something above and beyond you -- even if it is a tree. The universe will provide for you, if you let it. So, talk to it and pray for courage and strength. Lastly, you should seek counseling. A lot of time you can get it free through school or from a youth community organization. Best wishes.

Answer 5

Not much you can do now, sweetie. Spend your time studying to get good grades and go off to college. Go to the library, make good choices with friends and stay out of trouble. Don't even try to change the family situation......let it be your guide on what you don't want to put your children through. What goes on between your mother and step-father is none of your business so keep your opinions to yourself.

Answer 6

If your parents can afford it ASK to go to boarding school. If not just figure "eh I was probably switched at birth and I can get outa this mad house when I'm 18.
I asked to go to Military school just to get away from my family. Military School is pretty hard but it was better than dealing with the stuff your going thru which is pretty much what I went thru...

Answer 7

Sweetie, your life isn't messed up. Just everyone around you. Do your best to get and keep you life in a good perspective, school, extracurricular activities and if old enough work. Strive to be the best at whatever you do. Watch what they are doing so not to repeat it when you are an adult.

Answer 8

well I've been through a tough time sort of like that but mine was my dad was always in prison and my mom was choosing guy's over me and I was living with my grandma and she used to beat me with the broom stick or the metal part of the belt anything that was near her just because she was mad and her husband melesed me he tryed to rape me and it happened when I was asleep I used to lock my door and everything but he had a key and I told my grandma but she didn't do anything and I was making good grades in school and everything and I got tierd of it so I ran away and started to do drug's and started to date older guy's and lost my virginity a the age of 13 then at the age of 14 I got pregnant and I was locked up and had a miscarriage but now I'm home and things are different so my advise is take some time to your self were you can relaxe and chill go to a friends house or go to your room and listen to music or just go to child abuse cause that is abuse see I didn't know that they could do some thing for me just do something before it's to late!


Well Good Luck!

Answer 9

Have you ever tried talking to your mom and stepfather that their fighting is really getting to you? I know how things can get crazy from time to time but this will make you stronger.

Answer 10

realize that none of this is your fault...try to find a friend that you can really trust...and just let everything out too...stay at friends houses...dont concentrate on the negative, try to be optimistic and realize that God does have a plan and it will all work out. God wont give you more than you can handle, and it will make you stronger in the end.