we broke up like a year ago (becuase he hurt me ) then this year i saw him and i felt like hugging him and telling him stuff.but the worst part that i have a boyfriend who i adore and love ,but then when i see my ex i rememeber all the happy times we have last year.the weird part is that 2 weeks ago i have a dream that we were back together and i was so happy when i woke up .then when i'm with my boyfriend he may me feel special and i know i want to be with him , but then i feel bad becuase it make me feel more confuse about that i haven't got over my ex what does you guys think????
2006-11-29 14:17:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reasons that you broke-up with your ex is important for you to recognize. You may not have had closure with your ex--not everyone does, but it truly allows you to move on without any excess baggage, It is good that you have good memories of the past, but it is the past. Also the pain that your ex gave you is no longer an issue as you are with someone you adore and love. You still have feelings for your ex, but they are not in any way what they used to be. As time goes on, they will be less and less vivid. Now that you have read this, go and make love to your bf.
2006-11-29 14:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. It's hard not to have feelings for your ex. But you guys broke up for a reason, you don't want your relationship with your new boyfriend to fail to go back with your ex because if the same thing happens again you will be so mad at yourself. But I know your mind and your heart is telling you different things everyday. I think the way that you need to think is who will treat me better in the long run? But if you really want your ex back, you need to tell your boyfriend. Everything just goes worse by lying to him. Just take your time, no need to rush. Good Luck!
2006-11-29 22:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by KAB128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still got some feelings obviously. i'm in a similar situation myself. i've been seeing the same man off and on for almost four years. i thought we were done for good and started getting to know this other guy who's really a great guy the night before i was supposed to be going out with the new guy the ex called and started pouring his heart out. now i'm stuck (the ex also hurt me pretty badly) i'm very confused so i feel your pain. i'm trying to just feel out both situations and figure out what i should do and listen to my heart. it's very hard because i still love the ex but he pisses me off sometimes and i haven't known the new guy very long.
2006-11-29 22:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that even though your ex is special to you, he hurt you once, and he has the potential to do it again.
Give your new guy a chance. I'm sure if your truly love him, that you'll want him more than anybody. Always. Think of the good times both of you have together, instead of your ex =)
2006-11-29 22:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was best if you stayed single after you broke up with your ex so you can really know what you want and rediscover yourself!! It sounds like to me that you haven't gotten over him at all and that can be really unhealthy because you might be hurting the guy you are with when he hasn't done anything at all!!
2006-11-29 22:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by pqr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean, u might feel there was some unfinished business with him so he seems more mysterious or new compared to your current boyfriend. If he hurt you i wouldn't risk what u have with current boyfriend. You might just be bored with the man your with now
2006-11-29 22:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like that. Better take care of ur bf. That is the most important thing. Dont let him suspect you still like your ex. Better try to ignore your ex. Dont think too much bout him.
2006-11-29 22:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but you have a screw loose. Remeber the old addage, "Do me once shame on you, do me twice shame on me." Don't give him a chance to hurt you again!
2006-11-29 22:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by vhp3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's jsut you never close that door to him. He hurted you but you never forgave him. You have to forgive than forgive your self to let it go. Trust me its nothing. Plus your heart will never lie to you.
2006-11-29 22:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by jenny21gon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋