why do guys not pay any attention to shy fat girls?

Question

ok well im shy around other people but when im around family im fine and im also overweight so i dont know how to not be shy around other people and really shy around guys please help me

Answer 1

Because they are immature boys with no self confidence. There was another question similar to this one. Here is what I wrote on that one:

In my opinion, as a woman, I have always assumed that men wouldn't want to date a BBW or plus-size woman. (I'm 43 yrs old). About a year ago I met a really great guy who expressed interest in me - extreme interest. I came right out and asked him why he was paying so much attention to me (we had only met and emailed) and he was very honest and he said that women with big hips and thighs turned him on. I nearly fainted. We have been seeing each other over the past year and the attraction has grown. We have talked many, many times and I told him that I thought most men don't want plus-size women. He told me that I would be surprised the number of men that like larger women. Via the internet, he has shown me how much. The number of men who are attracted and adore plus-size women, is absolutely amazing. Believe me when I tell you....it gives us plus-sizers hope.

The relationship that I've had with this guy in the past year, has been better than any I've ever had. Previously, I never had a guy who wanted to see me in sexy lingerie. I never had a guy who wanted me to dress up in a short skirt and garters. I never had a guy who constantly tells me how beautiful I am. It is incredible and is absolutely wonderful. I can't get enough of it!! Talk about an ego booster and talk about boosting my self esteem! He has made me feel so much better about myself and my body.

Men need to realize that plus-size women are no different than average size, or thinner women. We want a relationship, we want sex, we want exactly what other women want....there is more to us than the exterior. Don't assume we are just stupid fat women. We are regular people, and have feelings too.

Men who like plus-size women need to stop worrying that their friends will laugh at them for liking plus-size women. A woman is a woman... tall, thin, short, average, plus-size... doesn't matter. Be a man and be with who you want to be.

Honey - you need to be more self-confident and be happy with yourself and your body. No one can do that for you.... A man will notice a self-confident woman. Your self confidence will improve after he shows you a little attention. That's what has happened with me. But generally, you must be happy with yourself first.

Just be yourself. Don't try so hard to be what you think guys want. Just be you....

Answer 2

Well not ALL guys. Some guys don't care about how the girl looks like and just how they are in the inside. But there are also the stupid guys in this world that only likes girls on how they look, or other words their booties or look or hair color. Now on the other hand if you are shy around guys than you have to overcome your fears. It's the only way, or the other way is wait till you are mature enough and just wait for the guy to come to you. But either way you still have to overcome that shy fear or nothing will come to you or even if it does come to you, you'll be too shy to deal with it.

Answer 3

O.k. I don't like the word "fat" .You have nothing to lose except some weight so speak up. Try something like "nice car" (guys like hearing that you like their car truck motorcycle etc.) Practice on guys that your not interested in so when you see one you are interested in you will be ready. Maybe if you made the first move (saying something) some of the guys that you don't think are paying attention might talk to you. Maybe join a gym. A smile goes a long way. You can tell guys that the reason that you got to your size is that you like to put things in your mouth. This might attract a guys imagination! Good luck!

Answer 4

Same reason girls don't pay attention to shy fat guys. They are not aethetically appealing. People generally want to surround themselves by people they find appealing in some way- and obesity is not an element to that. Why do people need to keep answering this question? Do people have to keep spelling out the obvious? It may be politically incorrect- but society generally does respect "fat" people and not find obseity aethetically appealing.

Answer 5

Showed her you care like spend money on her? She could just be using you for a casual dinner and free alcohol at your parties. On the other hand I would try to not pay any attention to her and see how she acts. Its like that movie said The person who always cares less in the relationship has the upperhand or power. And its true. do you think this check is on yahoo asking why you don't pay any attention to her? nope

Answer 6

It's not all about your weight. For some guys, shyness is a turn OFF as it is. Plus, for some guys being overweight is a turn OFF.

So, even losing weight won't guarantee you'll have guys asking you out. Because remember, shyness can be a turn off too.

First, try to be more social. Your cute (big girly) personality can go a looong way. Then you'll build some self esteem and lose weight.

Answer 7

I think that you have the potential to attract a guy no matter what your weight is as long as you radiate confidence. If you are really shy and you tend to avoid guys you won't get the attention you are looking for especially when guys tend to naturally gravitate to the skinny, anorexic girls with the bleach blonde heads...

You need to be happy with yourself...if you feel you need to lose weight then take action on it. If you are happy as you are then don't listen to people who put you down. Be yourself and be proud of who you are! Flaunt what you've got!!!

Answer 8

Your question: Why do guys not pay any attention to shy fat girls?
My answer: Guys don't like waiting and wondering what's up with us. If you're shy and don't say much, they think you're not interested. AND, every guy knows this, guys are shallow, if you're overweight and they don't like you because of it, screw them. You're too good for them.

Answer 9

Unless your attempted to pick up man-scum, weight has nothing to do with having guys pay attention to you.
My friend had a baby a few years ago and never really lost the weight... she still picks up more guys then i ( an average weight girl) do, simply because of the fact that she's very in-your-face and confident about herself
Learn to love your body and men will love it too :)

Answer 10

Queen Christine and Sherry make a lot of great points.

Here's something else you might want to think about- there might be some guys out there that have noticed you and were interested, but are shy themselves. You might be admired "from afar" and not even know it.