he already asked me several times but i always say no..I'm a bit 50/50 on that. I want to try it but there are many things that bothering me. I'm also afraid of loosing my virginity at this age. i'm just 16. and I'm afraid that after that he'l leave me. what do i do?
2006-11-29 14:01:21 · 20 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it does not feel right to you, then don't do it. You will regret it if you do. If your boyfriend cares for you and respects you, he will leave the topic alone until you decide the time is right. If he won't stop pestering you about it, I would dump him. Sounds like he might just want a girlfriend that puts out and not one to spend time with. If you do decide to have sex, make sure that you have protection. Don't depend on your partner for it. An unwanted pregnancy or a STD would just make the matter worse. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex until you are ready. Believe me, you will know when you are ready and who you are ready to do it with.
2006-11-29 14:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, whoever just sent in the answer, lets fix that spelling: condom*
If you aren't sure that you want to have sex, don't.
You may regret it later.
Everybody does it at a different time - some earlier than others, and some wait till they get married.
I personally lost my virginity when I was 16 to my boyfriend.... and I was totally 100% sure about it, and I still don't regret it. Even though he can be a total jerk sometimes, I'm still happy it was with him. We've been going out/dating on and off for 2 years.
So if you aren't ready, let him know. You shouldn't feel pressured to have sex and if he wants to break up with you because you don't want to, then he is not worth your time.
Good luck and be safe!
2006-11-29 22:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Horsebackrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he leaves you because you aren't 100% sure that you're ready, he's not worth it. And if he's stressing you out this much about it you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel. If you notice him getting hostile about it you know you should get out of the relationship. Plus if he's that kind of person it will be something you end up regretting. The first time should be special darlin'. You shouldn't have to think about it this much, you will just know.
2006-11-29 22:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dustin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking this question, you are not ready to have sex. You will know when the time is right and you will not be stressing over this matter. Do not let sex complicate your life at 16 especially when you are not ready.
2006-11-29 22:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably going to hate this answer but if you are not ready, then you are not ready. Having sex before you are ready can really mess you up especially if he gets what he wants and he dumps you. If he does not want to be with you when you aren't ready, then he is not worth it. When I was in high school, my friend gave in and wounded up pregnant and alone.
2006-11-29 22:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by krw65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. When you're ready, you'll know it. Don't make him pressure you into sex because you'll regret it, especially if you fear that he's going to leave you after giving in.
If he really takes your relationship seriously, he'd understand your hesitation and wouldn't mind waiting a few years until you're ready.
2006-11-29 22:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be 50/50 only act on what you 100% on and keep in mind that this HS rel probably wont last i don care about the age its up to you and only you who why when
2006-11-29 22:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by groovergabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself... too young to be raising babies.. do you agree? The chances are very high that he is not the man you will marry later on in life, save yourself for him. Take advice from someone who didn't. You will respect yourself much more if you wait. If he is pressuring you into sex, then he is definantely not the one for you. Any man, or boy that respects you will wait until you are ready. Save yourself.. he is not worth your pride, your virginity, your purity, or your holiness. SAVE YOURSELF!!!!
2006-11-29 22:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by bbwandsingle1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to, he should understand. If he gets upset with you saying no, you're wasting your time with him. I also think the only time you should have sex is if you are really in love. Make sure that you're in love with him before you do it. Or else you're going to regret it.
2006-11-29 22:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will eventually leave you, and at age 16, those chances are very high.
2006-11-29 22:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by bloodsanctum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋