How comfortable would you be leaving your young child in the care of a couple who's child was abducted years ago and never found?
Would it matter whether the couple were good people or not? I commented over lunch today that I would feel very uncomfortable leaving my child in the care of someone who's own child was abducted, but I was verbally reprimanded by the two men sitting with me (there were no women present). Is there a difference in the way than men and women would perceive such a situation?
Any thoughts would be much appreciated.
2006-11-29 13:33:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I wonder what the situation was when the child was abducted....was it a family dispute? or stranger abduction?
I would have red flags as to the adequate supervision would be had with my child.
Your concerns are valid.
2006-11-29 13:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were the two men who were sitting with you parents? My guess would be probably not, because it's just a natural reaction for a parent to be uncomfortable in a situation like this. Doesn't mean you think it's the parents' fault, just makes you think very carefully about who you allow around your child. All parents should be thinking carefully about who watches their child(ren), whether there's an issue of child abduction surrounding the person or not. There are far too many people out here who like to do sick things to kids, so you can't just trust your kids with anyone.
2006-11-29 13:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend entirely on who they were and how well I knew them. Family, close close friends etc. I would be fine with it. If I didn't know them so well then definitely not. Also I'd prefer to know the exact details of the case. There was a mother in our area who's child was abducted (and retrieved thank the lord) after she left her in the car to run into a gas station. That woman, even if she was family, would not be allowed to watch my daughter alone. There are some abduction cases where there's not a darn thing the parents could have done to stop it. If that happened to one of my close friends or family members then I would still let them babysit anytime.
2006-11-29 14:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why the child was abducted, I mean if it was the parents fault and they were completely not paying any attention to the child, etc...Sometimes a child being abducted is not at all the parents fault. It happens. But I honestly probably would not, not to judge them or anything, but Just because that thought of their own child disappearing would be in my head.
2006-11-29 13:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is twelve months old and I haven't let anyone watch him except my family. I am way to nervous these day's with all the creaps out there playing off being a childcare giver / rapist/killer.
I think I would be all set on this issue myself why take the chance for a night out. But then again not everyone has the luxury of being a stay at home mom and need childcare so I am conflicted.
2006-11-29 13:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other writers in that I'd have to be VEEERRRY certain I felt that couple had nothing to do with the previous abduction. You can't let your guilt about not trusting them lead you to doing something you aren't comfortable with. If you aren't comfortable with it...maybe there's a reason.
2006-11-29 13:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by lotsaanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not feel comfortable leaving my child with anyone who is not immediate family. I mean, the most distant relative my 8 month old daughter has stayed with was my husband's aunt, and she only lives about 3 miles from us.
2006-11-29 13:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by dolphins_chic_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how well I knew the people. If I thought they may have been responsible for the disappearance or did not know enough about them, I would. If I thought they didn't havee anything to do with the child's disappearance and were loving people, I would let them watch my kids. (I don't have any kids right now, it's hypothetical.)
2006-11-29 13:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would totally depend on how well I knew them...are they close friends and family? What long-term history do I know about them? Are they neighbors that I get together with twice a year? Do I work with them and only know them professionally? Your question raises many others that I would need answered first. HOWEVER, I would also look to my "gut" feeling. If there's any hesitation inside myself...the answer is..."No. I wouldn't feel comfortable.
2006-11-29 13:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by wgoogenhiem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would.
2006-11-29 13:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋