it would save us on taxes. Well, I am disabled and I just learned I can have it in my name and qualify for a homestead exemption. So, I told my husband to talk to her about signing over to me, but he keeps conveniently forgetting about it. I don't plan on leaving him or trying to take anything from him, but if he passed away, I may not have a home to live in. His mother does not like me at all. Please advice me how to handle this as politely as possible.
2006-11-29 13:18:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband and I get along very well.
2006-11-29 13:19:13 · update #1
Wow, sounds like a touchy subject. Perhaps try talking to your husband about your concerns with what would happen if he passed on.
If he keeps "forgetting" maybe you should remind him when he is actually speaking to his mother. Just something like "oh, did you remember to ask your mum about the house..?" should do it.
Best of luck.
2006-11-29 13:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by evil_nykki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I see your concern. Do you think his mother is already refusing to sign it over to you? Could that be the reason he says he is "forgetting" to talk to her? I would start a friendly conversation about it really soon and say something like "gee honey, what if something happened to your mom and the house was in her name? We could lose it then." Just tell him it is very important for your peace of mind that it gets put back in your name immediately. If you and him paid for it together it really should be in your name or at least both of your names together.
Good luck to you. I hope it goes easily for you.
A thought... what if his mom passed away and left the home to someone else in her will? There would be nothing you could do to get it back then. That is a possibility since she dislikes you.
2006-11-29 21:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you just gave your mother-in-law the weapon she needs if she wnats to get rid of you. First even to save taxes you should never sign your house or anything to someone else. Now the only way is to talk with your husband and let him know the only way to get homestead exemption is not him but both of you talking to his Mother. Tell her you need your house back on both you'll name for the exemption. But knowing her she is libel to tell you no. But one thign that both you and your husband don't know now that the house is in her name she can sell it anytime she wants just to get rid of you. SO talk to your husband and tell him both of you need to talk to her. Also go to a lawyer for some advice too. Most don't charge for the first visit. Good Luck
2006-11-29 21:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then insist this be done immediately and do not stop until it is done. If anything happens? Nothing has to happen His mom can do what she wants to right now. You and your husband have made a foolish mistake to try and cheat on the taxes and now you might have lost everything because there is no way that you can really force the mom to turn anything back over to either one of you.
2006-11-29 21:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you're worried about living with his mom and the things she says to you, you need to be more concerned about this instead. Get that house signed back over to you immediately before you start spouting off to her about how she treats you. This is important. As you said, if anything happened, you're out of luck. Speak to your husband about your concerns. Tell him first and foremost that you're worried that if anything should happen to him, you're worried you won't have a home any more. Also tell him that you're upset about some of the things your mom has been saying that have been hurtful. Let him see that it's VERY important to you to get that title back and if he loves you and wants to see you happy he will speak with her about it. Good luck.
2006-11-29 22:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sue B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only you, but your husband could lose should his Mother decide to sell it or if she should die, if he has siblings and she doesn't have a will, the estate would be divided equally between him and his siblings. That would be a good talking point to your husband. I wouldn't put this off.
Let's hope your husband and his mother aren't in this decision together, especially since she is not fond of you.!!!!
You need some guidance on this situation !!
Good luck to you!!
2006-11-29 21:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by "Hooks" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he is afraid to approach her. Why in the world would you sign away your home for saving a few hundred on taxes compared to the value and security of your home?
Especially if you know she doesn't like you and you don't and can't trust her.
2006-11-29 21:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the advice of an attorney.
2006-11-29 21:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by lh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that his mother doesn't like you probably should have been thought of before. yikes! you should contact a lawyer immediately.
2006-11-29 21:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to sign it over to you..
2006-11-29 21:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by KT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋