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Recently, I had some issues with school so I returned home for a little while and got a job to save up money for my return. My parents did not seem to have a problem with it and in fact, seemed thrilled to have me back home. However, I overheard the two of them talking negatively about me and it seems that their kind behavior towards me is fake. I don't know what to do. Do I have a right to be upset? After all, it is their house. If I had known how they felt, I would have found somewhere else to go.

2006-11-29 13:10:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

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you should talk to them about it. let them know that you appreciate them letting you stay at the house while you get your things straight but that you overheard them talking about you. and if they would prefer for you go to somewhere else, all they had to do was ask. and that you're an adult and you would have preferred if they had come to you directly instead of acting like you are just a nuisance. good luck!

2006-11-29 13:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0 0

Captain Nemo,

Please don't confuse your parent's frustration and anger over an unexpected turn in all of your lives with their real feelings for you.

Never eavesdrop, (listen in). You will never like what you hear.

People often verbally "blow off steam" with each other when they think they will not be overheard. They do not mean what they say, they are just trying to come to terms with their thoughts and feelings by using each other as a "sounding board". They are probably worried for you and are just venting frustration that they cannot "baby" you now like they would like to. After all, you are an adult now. They had high hopes for you to obtain a college degree, and may be worried thay you don't care, or that all your hard work will turn out to be for nothing. Every parent hopes and dreams their children will graduate college, so this is an end to their dream for them. Of course they are trying to figure out what went wrong. Have a heart to heart talk with them about why college wasn't working out for you. Let them know what you plan to do next in your life. They just want a better life for you.

Try helping around the house as much as you can. Do stuff without being asked, repair things, mow the lawn, wash dishes, vacuum, clean the bathrooms, do laundry, whatever. This will show them you are mature and not just lazy or something. Offer to pay them a reasonable amount of rent while you save up to continue college or to get your own place. They should quickly realize they were worried for nothing.

2006-11-29 13:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 1 0

Find out reasons as to why your parents are acting that way. What causes them to have that behavior? You should ask them and talk to them about it, or you should just leave and they will know why eventually. Or let them know that you overheard teh conversation and you want to confront the truth. Good luck and I am sorry to hear that.

2006-11-29 13:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0 0

I am sure your family loves you and were just venting when they said what they did. It is an adjustment once the kids leave from home and then come home again. Good and Bad. They would not want you to go elsewhere and would feel bad if they knew you overheard them

2006-11-29 13:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by shannyutz 2 · 0 0

Under these circumstances, I'd sit down with my parents and tell them what you thought you heard and ask they if they really feel that way. See what they say.

2006-11-29 13:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0 0

go talk to them about it

2006-11-29 13:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by naterz 1 · 0 0

u should confront them about it

2006-11-29 14:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Charles B 2 · 0 0

i say confront them !

2006-11-29 14:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Barbie 6 · 0 0

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