HELP.......boyfriend trouble?

Question

Ok well today in school...evry one wuz telling me that this kid wuz gonna ask me out......so i wuz like cool? and then in 6th period he asked me and i said yes.....but the problem iz.....he iz really short and skinny...im tall and chubby....he iz hot and i like him but, i am one of those kind of people who care what other people think and i tell myself "why do you care what other people think? you shouldnt care"! but then i still care.......and after school this kid that iz my bf's good friend wuz like wow.... you two will have some bed problems and that really hurt me....i told my bf but he said "F**k him"! i dont no what to do!

Answer 1

Just because a guy is shorter than you isn't a good reason not to be with him. You said your still in school, but you didn't mention how old you and this guy are. If you two are in middle school (5th - 8th grade) then you guys are just starting puberty and he's not necessarily going to be short and skinny forever, and there's a good chance he's going to get a lot taller and put on more weight and muscle. If you guys are in the beginning of high school (9th - 10th) that would put you roughly in the middle of puberty, he might grow a little taller and he still might put on a bit of muscle. If you guys are near the end of high school (11th - 12th) than you guys are nearing the end of puberty, in which case he's not going to get much taller (maybe a 1-4 inches if he has a late growth spurt) and he might stay skinny, but maybe he'll get into lifting weights and build up some muscle.

You mentioned that you're "tall and chubby"... did you ever think that maybe he's under the same pressure not to be with you because of the way YOU look? The fact that he likes you and asked you out means that he's more interested in hanging out with you and getting to know you, than being concerned about how you look. There's a good chance that his friends and other guys around him are going to give him crap (if they haven't already started) about liking you.

Chubby is a middle ground between "Average" Weight and "Fat", and most guys your age don't acknowledge this weight class. To them your either "Average" or "Fat", their is no middle ground. Right now this guy is interested in you, which means he thinks your nice and your "Average" weight, but the guys around him maybe saying, "Dude, she fat. How can you like her?" If you snub him because of his height, he's going to bail, and he's not going to like you as much as he did.

If you really want to be with this guy, then looks shouldn't matter. You have a chance to be in a happy relationship with someone that is interested in being with you. The fact that you said yes when he asked you out shows you like him, if his looks were such a problem you should have said no.

He's able to accept the fact that you don't look perfect, and is willing to be with you. Why can't you do the same?

Answer 2

Well to tell you one thing I have never had a boyfriend. And your boyfriend's friend shouldn't have said that. You should tell him to back off. My friend got beat-up for something she said. If people make fun of you one of these days they'll get beat up for saying something about someone. So don't worry about it. If you are tall and chubby why does it matter? I'm short and a little bit chubby, but does that stop me from living my life. Who cares what other peope say. Plus if the boy is EXTREMLY HOT, go for it.

Answer 3

I can tell you one thing that everyone told me, because like you Im tall and chubby too. I know what its like in highschool. Im 18 and the best thing someone ever said was dont worry because while you're thinking about what other people are thinking about you, they are thinking what you are thinking about them. Be confident. You dont need to prove anything to anyone. Just be yourself, you have the guy you like, so what does it matter if someone on the outside says something, they arent your boyfriend.

Answer 4

If u care so much abt what other ppl will think then y r u going out with this guy. U r hurting his feelings nothing much will happen 2 u.

Answer 5

If he really likes you, then the F**k you stay with him. The world shouldn't influence you like that. F**k the world. Who cares what other people think. The only person that matters is you. Remember that.

Answer 6

Dont worry about it, people will give you crap all your life... if it is not about your hair, it is your clothes, if it is not about your clothes, it is about your *insert stupid insult*

It is just how life works.... sadly...

Blow them off and move on with your life. People like you for who you are and will exept you no matter what you look like. At least, the REAL friends will.

Answer 7

emmm depends how old are you and he is.. if you are still in middle school or something then he will grow tall..... it really shouldn't matter what other people think..... have more respect for yourslef...if you like this guy and he is nice and cool then why not stay with him........ he will grow..........

if your already in highschool and in senior years.. then..... still... if you like him that much then go out with him

give him a chanse you might be surprised

Answer 8

dont wry about it if this guy likes u then that is what u need to care about not what his petty friends think about u


With Love from God
Joshwea
Best of Luck

Answer 9

If u like this guy and he likes u then go for it!! dont let some ****** mess things up! some guys like women with more meat on thier bones ya know!!! its true!!!

Answer 10

take life as it comes dont lisen to that stuff about the future and think for yourself. thats an important part of your life!