2006-11-29 13:08:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it depends on the terms of the prenup. What are you trying to protect or insure does or doesn't happen. Those are important factors to consider. Also i'm assuming she wasn't present for the construction of this agreement so were her interests considered? I would approach the subject openly and honestly, expect that feelings will get hurt so choose your words carefully and be considerate of her feelings and the fact that you are springing this on her, how would you feel is the situation was reversed?
2006-11-29 13:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have enough to warrant a prenup, make it worth her while. Don't make it so one-sided that it seems you don't trust her. Also make statements that reward her if it's found that you cheat or abandon the marriage.
Otherwise, if it's all in your favor and your honor, of course she's gonna get mad.
If there is so much there that you need to "protect" it from her, offer her a good amount in the prenup if the marraige goes south.
It's useless to try to explain it to her that "it's just a formality" if you aren't willing to put some trust in her too but handing over some of the goods when/if you split.
2006-11-29 21:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-nups!! Bad. I believe that marriage should be based on trust. If you are planning for the marriage to fail I wouldn't get married period. But I would be insulted if my Fiance suggested a pre-nup. Its going to be different to each person. Good luck tho!!
2006-11-29 22:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Noella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should def talk about the pros and cons about having a prenup and see how the both of you look at it. come to an agreement first before just plain out pointing at where to sign.
respect her feelings and opinions and let her speak her mind. then you can tell her the benefits of choosing to do this. build a converstation about it and be optimistic.
2006-11-29 21:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think pre-nups are a bad idea, because when you get married it all becomes joint stuff...what is it that you have that you don't want to share, that is the main reason I've seen is because one or the other persons has items they don't want to share. Or maybe I've always misunderstood the point of it..
2006-11-29 21:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were feeling really secure about marrying this girl then you wouldnt be on here asking such a silly question. just tell her and see how it goes either way shes going to get mad there is no telling her easily.
2006-11-29 23:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by maureen a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be done. If you asked me to sign one I would leave you flat. period. Are you planning for the marriage to fail? So why bother?
2006-11-29 21:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's going to be a little insulted, no matter how you present it to her. Just give her a little time to accept it after you show it to her.
2006-11-29 21:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU ARE SETTING YOURSELF UP TO BE A STATISTIC,,,,50% OF MARRIAGES FAIL AND YOUR ALREADY PUTTING YOURSELF IN THIS CATEGORY MAKING HER SIGN THE PRE-NUP..GOOD LUCK
2006-11-29 21:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should just do it out of love and espect if she knows that you guys are meant to be together, and if she wants to be with you then i don't see why she won't sign the damn thing.
2006-11-29 21:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋